On setting goals and not getting overwhelmed

It’s that time of year again.

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My very favorite time of year to garden. The world outside my window is covered in ice and I’m snuggled up by the fire, looking through seed catalogs and planning the perfect garden.

There are no weeds, no drought, no flooding. No squash bugs, no aphids, no grasshoppers. No cows devouring all the corn just before it ripens. No sheep eating the tops off all the onions. The garden is perfect, laid out in neat rows, producing on schedule.

It’s all so perfect on paper.

But this year is going to be different.

OK, so it was supposed to be different last year. The garden even made it onto my New Year’s Resolution type thing. It was supposed to be different, and I suppose it was. I mean, I got as far as making the cool graphic, didn’t I?

It’s funny, the plans we make. So much like daydreams, with an added touch of hope that this year . . . this year will be the year. This year will be the year that I somehow won’t stumble over all the same obstacles.

I have a lot of plans this year. It’s the first year in a long time that I’ve attempted to tackle much of anything. And I’m plagued by doubts. Can I really do this? Is it too much? What if I fail? Is it too soon? Will failure send me back to that place that used to swallow me every time we met?

The obstacles in my mind are the ones that are the hardest for me to overcome. They are the ones that hold me back from stepping outside my comfort zone, that keep me from challenging what I think I know, that tie me to this comfortable place that plays around with dreams but does very little to realize them.

But I’m taking small steps.

One thing at a time. When I lift my head up enough to see my end goal, I feel overwhelmed. It’s too much . . . I can’t do this . . . the same thoughts that took hold after my son died.

But I don’t have to do all of that. Not yet.  Because this year I applied a little wisdom to my increasing energy. I took my biggest goals and broke them down into very small steps. Very small steps that all should lead forward.

Right now, all I have to do is what’s next.

Do what’s next and have faith that I’ll be ready for the next step when the time comes.

2 comments
  1. cnybeth

    I took a 4000 mile road trip with 5 kids who couldn’t drive (ages 15 – 6) . If I had stopped to think – 4000 mi, How am I going to do that? – it wouldn’t have happened. But put in small steps – today we drive 300 miles – then it was doable. And once the plan is in place, how does it happen? Well, you get in the car and drive. And at the end of the day, you are somewhere on down the road closer to the goal.

    Way to go breaking the garden into small steps! Keep doing what’s next! We are rooting for you!

  2. Dana

    Thank you! And yes, a road trip like that can be daunting. I took the kids to Virginia in September and I was so worried I’d lose someone! I got one of those backpack leashes for the then 2 year old but it only resulted in screaming fits. He did great, though. As long as he was off the leash!

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