What happened

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Deep breath.

I can do this.

I actually have already a few times. The first several times, I know the person on the other end of the line couldn’t decipher anything through my sobs. Fortunately, they were all gracious enough to express their condolences without asking me to go through it all again.

It was a horrible, horrible accident and I’m still stuck replaying all the decisions I could have made differently that might have left my energetic little boy here in my arms, dispersing my dishes about the house, sneaking fruit out of the refrigerator and eating the tips off markers any chance he got. And it is only beginning to sink in how much worse it could have been.

Friday was such a windy day. 45 mile an hour gusts. We had an extension on our chimney with a draft inducing cap on top and the wind caught it and took it down with a crash. I was so glad I don’t let the children play outside on windy days. See, we have some loose tin on one of the barns and I’m terrified the wind will bring it down.

John went up but there wasn’t much he could do other than make sure that the chimney wasn’t damaged to the point of being unusable. It was bitterly cold. Windchill that night was expected to reach minus 25. The men from the volunteer fire department who were first to arrive would leave the basement door open, causing all our pipes to freeze and break. It wasn’t a night we could go without heat.

But that caused some challenges. The stove didn’t have enough draft so the smoke started coming into the house. Flames shot out the front and scared me to death. I had the older children help me clear the area of anything flammable. I swept the hearth to make sure there weren’t any pellets or bark near the stove to catch fire and was so thankful John had been called to a job in Lincoln. I could stay up most of the night until he got home in order to babysit the stove. I got the fire extinguisher out and re-read the directions to make sure I knew how to use it.

It was bedtime, but the children were rather excited about the whole thing. I also didn’t want them breathing all the smoke. They asked for a family movie night. At first I said no, but then I thought they could get out their sleeping bags, watch a movie and hopefully fall asleep without any bedtime struggle since I really didn’t want to leave the stove.

Plus I figured if the house did catch fire, that put them all in one place. Since the first time I set the smoke detector off in the middle of the night without so much as a flinch from the children, I’ve been terrified about how on earth I would rescue six children on my own.

I finally got the smoke cleared and the stove heated up enough that the heat of the air started the drafting in the right direction. I checked on the children and they were all sitting, enjoying their show. I decided to go ahead and put the baby to bed and see how the stove was doing before maybe joining them for awhile.

As he was falling asleep, Tiggy and Ellie came up and started wrestling and jumping around on my bed. I played for a minute, let Tiggy shower the baby with his sweet little kisses but that is an amazingly difficult way to get a baby to sleep.

“Why don’t you go back downstairs and watch the movie with Koko?”

I will regret those words for the rest of my life. Over and over in my mind I keep him. Let him stay up. Let him bounce on the bed. Let the baby be awake until Tiggy bounced himself out of energy and fell asleep.

He was such a good little boy. He obeyed immediately.

I laid the baby down.

The phone rang. It was John. I had called him about the stove but it was under control now.

I heard a crash, dropped the phone and ran to the basement.

“Tiggy!”

I heard my daughter scream.

She and my son were standing there, doing their best to hold up a dresser.

A heavy dresser.

A sturdy dresser.

Nothing like what you’ll ever find at WalMart or Nebraska Furniture Mart.

I loved that dresser because it was sturdy. Hardwood, and the drawers were even made of wood, not that balsa-like material in our other drawers.

I hate that dresser. And the television we set on it because it was the most sturdy piece of furniture we own.

When the dresser started to tip, my twelve year old went for it. She was scratched by her puppy who was frantically trying to get out of the way. She was hit by a television. Still, she went toward the dresser and tried to catch it.

My three year old was hit. She has a dresser-knob shaped circle on her ankle and some bruising on her leg. She didn’t so much as shed a tear. I wouldn’t find out anyone but Mattias had been hurt until we were at the hospital and I came out to tell them how Tiggy was doing and try to calm them down a little.

And the dresser my husband had pushed and shook and stood on when we bought it to make sure it could take some climbing landed on my little Tiggy, cracking his head against the concrete floor. I don’t remember getting from the stairs to him. I only remember kneeling over him, the weight of the dresser on my back and screaming.

“Call 911!”

I shouted and my daughter was already running with the phone. I didn’t make a lot of sense, I don’t think. I said my address over and over as clearly as I could, but the lady on the other end wanted to know what happened. I remember screaming about my baby and blood and just screaming before taking a deep breath and repeating my address. She reassured me an ambulance was on the way. She had my address. But when help arrived, all they understood was that there had been an accident and a baby was involved.

I was panicking. I thought blood was coming from his eyes, nose and ear. I didn’t think there was any way he would live long enough for the ambulance to get there. I called my husband and told him he had to come home. Tiggy was dying. I was so incredibly thankful he had been called to a job in Lincoln. He stepped off the train, told his train crew  he needed to go and got in the car. About an hour later, he was at the hospital. Normally, it would have taken several hours to get off the train in some outlying area, wait for a bus and so forth.

When the paramedics did finally arrive and I listened to them describe the injuries, I realized all the blood was coming from a cut above his nose.

For a moment, I could breathe. For a moment, I thought maybe he would make it.

One of the men from the volunteer fire department drove me and all the children to the hospital. The same man who dug out our whole road when our mini van fell in the ditch. The same man who advised me about the dangers of winter, the need for an alternate heat source and the need for food and water stores. The same man who put our little grass fire out. And the same man who re-graded our road after the fire.

We got to the hospital and Mattias was still alive. He was responding to pain. He had a bite reflex.

I thought maybe. Maybe there was a chance. But he was so little and that dresser was so heavy. I wanted to be in the room with him. Holding him. Talking to him. But I didn’t want to be in the way. I didn’t want to distract anyone if I screamed. I didn’t want to take nurses away if I collapsed. I knew this might be the last I saw him alive and I had to fight all my maternal drive to be with him to give him the best possible medical attention he could get.

They wanted him at the Children’s Hospital in Omaha but Life Flight wasn’t flying. The sheriff was checking to see if the roads were open. They were. They began preparing him for transport. I told my parents Omaha and they left their home in Kansas. Omaha called and said he needed to be at a trauma center. Lincoln would be best. I figured my parents would figure it out. My husband arrived.

My children were taken to someone’s house.

We left for Lincoln. An hour drive in good weather. It took us a little longer. It took them 40 minutes.

But when we got there, Tiggy was still alive. Getting a CT scan. We sat in a room with a nurse offering drinks and heated blankets. John wrapped me, practically swaddled me, while she discussed their respite rooms and that we could stay there at the hospital.

The CT scan was not good. Severe fracture to the skull. Severe brain trauma. They described the surgery and the risks. They wanted to make sure I understood the risks and I wanted to yell at them for talking to me when they could be getting started.

We were led out to the hall and told what we were to see as Tiggy would be carted from the intake room to surgery. They paused with the cart so we could see and talk with him ever so briefly before continuing the dash to surgery. Something in me knew it was goodbye. But I kissed him ever so lightly on the forehead because I was terrified of hurting him.

“I love you, Tiggy! Be a good boy.”

And they took him. The last thing I heard as he went through the door was one of the nurses informing the surgeon that his blood pressure was improving.

And again I had a glimmer of hope that would flicker faintly for another hour before we knew for sure.

He had held on for five hours.

He was a fighter. Strong and sweet and full of a life that could not be easily taken. He hung on long enough for my husband to see him, so my husband and I could be together to see him for the last time.

His funeral is tomorrow and I’ll hopefully share a little slide show if anyone wants to see snapshots of his little life that was far too short. (Update: The slide show is posted.)

In the meantime, take a look around your home. Not just at bathtubs and outlets and choking hazards for we always emptied the bathtub and had the bathroom door closed; we cut his grapes and hot dogs in half so he wouldn’t choke; we did everything we could so we urge you take a long hard look at the things you never thought about before. The things you thought were sturdy and secure. The old, heirloom pieces of furniture that seem so very sturdy. I climbed that dresser once to fix a curtain. I never would have thought it would fall. I know you can’t bubble wrap the world, but right now, I’m in the mood to try.

Please, check your homes because the everyday ordinary may not be as safe as you envisioned.

And hug your little babies. I hope and pray you never know how much you can miss all their little mischiefs.

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  1. Oh, God! That’s all I can think to say, not as a profanity but as a prayer. Words seem so trivial, and I wish I could do something to help. I’m so sorry.

  2. Dana I am so sorry. I lost my son and can tell you that it takes time, but it does get better. I am lifting your family up in prayers.

  3. ((((Dearest Dana)))))) Sharing is a precious step in allowing the Father to heal your wound. Your precious outcry for others is amazing in your time of grief. I am crying again with you and extend the whispers of my heart in prayer to cover you and your family.

  4. My heart just aches for your loss. No words, nothing, will every fill Mattias’ place in your home, your family, your hearts. But may the healing balm of the Lord our God soften the hurt and sadness.

  5. You are a sturdy and strong woman, Dana. I read your post and all I can think is that in the midst of your own suffering you’re thinking of others and sparing another mother your heartache. Grace, dignity, and love shine in your words. It is obvious to all who will read it that dresser that has taken the life of your son, will not take your life or your faith too.

    Covering you in love and prayers
    spunky

  6. Dana, my heart is just aching for you and your entire family. I’m crying as I type this – wishing I could just give you a hug and sit and cry with you in person. Many prayers are being said on your behalf to only One who truly understands your pain.

  7. Oh, Dana… I am so very sorry. So very sorry. I am crying just reading this. I hold you and your family in my prayers… and I don’t know what else to say. I can’t even imagine your pain. (((HUGS)))

  8. Dana, I know your pain, loss, and fears. If you ever need someone who’s been there to talk to, please don’t hesitate to get in touch. Holding all of you in the light of love.

  9. Hi, we don’t know each other but I found your blog through Phyllis Berg’s All Things Beautiful blog. I am so sorry.
    May the Lord be your peace and comfort in this difficult time.

    Love and prayers from a sister in Christ,
    iwonderbee

  10. Dana, thank you for sharing this. You see, I’m a homeschooling mother of six under ten, my little boy is 23 months old, the fifth child. He’s a monkey, a climber, a trouble maker to the nth degree. Since I saw the post on Sunday I’ve been staring around my house (I thought it must have been something at home) and again and again, trying to see what I could do. I’m sorry. I know it’s terrible to hear from someone who can still hold their monkey boy. But I’m so GRATEFUL that you shared this. We do have heavy furniture, dressers and bookshelves loaded with books. Like you, I cut the hot dogs and cover the outlets, set the water heater and close the bathroom door. He has still missed major injury by inches. (One day I found him in the laundry room, standing on the dryer door, pulling the cord of the iron towards his head.) You have all been in my heart these past days, in my prayers and even my dreams at night. Your baby is in the arms of Jesus right now, but I know yours are aching. Your love was everything in his short life. I shared your story with my children, who have seen your pictures many times on my computer screen. They have prayed HARD for your little people, almost the same ages as themselves. Love and prayers to you all,
    Virginia

  11. What a terrible accident!! I am so very very sorry for your loss and will keep your family in our prayers. Tomorrow will be so very hard.

  12. Dana, unfortunately I know what it feels like, but fortunately I also know how big our God is and near He stays in these times. Bask in His love dear sister, just bask in it while it is so close. I am praying for your dear family, the shower is a really good place to let go. Hugs and love to your family.
    blessings, Penny Raine

  13. I have never met you, yet my heart aches for you as if we have been dear friends for years. We will be covering your family with prayer as you walk through this journey the Lord has for you.

  14. I don’t know you, but I’m crying for you. I am so sorry. I am so thankful there is a God in heaven. And one day this mess of threads that we see will make a beautiful tapestry and we’ll understand it all. May the Lord pour out his grace on you and your family.

  15. Dana, I only know your ordeal through friends who’ve asked me to pray. I am praying and there are no words…I pray for you and for your husband and children.

  16. I am so sorry, Dana. I read your blog on my reader and when this came across I kept waiting to hear that this was a story of some kind. If it’s unreal for me to read, I can’t imagine what you and your family must be going through 🙁

    We will pray for your family.

  17. Praying deep comfort for your family in these most difficult days to come. Yahweh, “He Is”. He will be to you, whatever you need, at each moment. Your peace, your healing, your comfort, your joy, your tears, your aches, your punching bag, your place to pour your deep grief. He is.

  18. Praying that God so warmly, tender wash over your mama heart with the amazing strength and peace only He can offer. May you drink in His embrace, knowing your precious little boy is cradled in those same loving arms of his Father. May you feel near to the heart of them both.

  19. Oh my gosh. I am so so so sorry. we had a dresser tip but we so so so lucky. It’s bolted to the wall and set where if it ever unbolts from the wall it will hit a bed and not tip all of the way. I hate dressers. HATE THEM.

    I am just so sorry.

  20. Dana,

    I am a friend of Kathy J (Jcrew). I came here from her blog…I am aching and so heartbroken for your family. All I can do is pray, which I will certainly commit to doing for your family. I am so, so very sorry.

    Devin, in Illinois

  21. Dana, I have no words. Just tears and heartache. I am so sorry.

    Please remind yourself it was an accident. It was no one’s fault.

    Father God, let Dana know you’re with her and her family right now. May they know your presence and feel your loving arms wrapped tightly around them right now.

  22. Dana, this is my first time to your place on the internet. I wish it wasn’t because of this post. I am so sorry, I can’t say I know your pain but my heart aches for you and your family. I read this whole thing trying to keep my eyes from getting blurry from tears. I’m in awe of your ability to write about it so quickly. Many many prayers being lifted up from me.

  23. oh Dana! :hugs: there aren’t really words to comfort now… just lean on our Savior. praying for y’all through this time. my heart is broken for your loss. so sorry!

  24. Dana

    Thank you for sharing your heartache. Through your pain you may have saved some children and their families.

    I cried through the whole recounting. I am in so much pain for you and your family. Please know that my prayers are with you. I know we haven’t met in real life but I count you as a friend and my heart aches for you.

  25. I am so very sorry for your loss. what a horrible tragic accident. I will be checking my home for hazards now, if its any comfort, you may have saved a few lives by telling your story. x

  26. My heart is breaking with you. I do know that pain I’ve faced the loss of my daughter and foster son. I am praying for your peace, for your family. I hadn’t been to your site until today but I offer my prayers and support to you. If you ever want someone to talk to please feel free to contact me. God bless you and your family xxxx

  27. Dana,

    While I do not know you (our husbands work together) your sorrow has reached my core. I pray that God’s grace and peace surround you.

  28. I know it sounds generic, but I am so sorry for your loss. I will hug my babies a little tighter and check all of our furniture because of this, although I wish it didn’t have to be so.

  29. Angela Derossett(sp?) was kind enough to publish this to the HOTM contributors, and I’ve held back tears the whole time I’ve read through it. God bless you and your family and give you strength at this time.

  30. My heart is breaking for you. God has called another angel home to be with HIM. Praying for you all. I lost my mom just over a year ago, I know how much it hurts to loose someone so suddenly.
    May God send the Comforter to be with you at this time of need. If you ever need to talk, message me on FaceBook,
    JudyLynn Clarke

  31. Dana,
    I cant even express my sadness for you and your family. I cant even try. Know that you are in my prayers, and your baby is in the arms of Jesus.

  32. We never know why these types of things happen. We just have to embrace ourselves in the Father’s love and lean on him. I do not know you but my heart aches for you and your family. May God give you the strength and peace that you need to continue in your journey of life. You can have hope that your little boy is in a much better place waiting for you, if you believe in Christ Jesus and have accepted him as your savior.

  33. Dear Dana,
    Weeping with you.
    Mourning for your entire family.
    Praying for you without ceasing.
    May our Father in Heaven comfort you as only He can and surround you with a peace that passes all understanding. May you be enveloped in love, and may God’s perfect love carry you through this dark valley.

    Grace and Peace,
    Angel

  34. Dana,
    My heart is aching & my eyes are streaming with tears after reading your post. Please know that you & your family are continually in my thoughts and prayers.

  35. Dear Dana,

    I have never read your blog before “What Happened.” I think it is in God’s providence. My 19 year old son was killed in a head-on collision for reason’s unknown just four months ago. I am SO, SO sorry for your loss. Lean, lean, lean on the Lord. He will be close to you as you walk through the valley of the shadow of death. God’s grace, God’s grace, God’s grace to you and yours. PLEASE e-mail me personally if you would like.

    Nothing will change that day….as we realize all of the things we wish we had done different–don’t condemn yourself for the past as you little by little begin to see light to make effort inch by inch to go forward.

  36. Dear Dana, I have never read your blog before but I came across it today. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. I just prayed for you.

  37. I’ve never been here before, and this seems such an awful way to “meet” you…

    My heart is breaking for you. For your family. My heart is praying, achingly praying… I am so sorry for your loss…

  38. I cannot say how my heart breaks for you and your family. Only God knows the reasons for all this, and He will bring you through it. My prayers for you and your family.

  39. Dana and John and your precious children,
    Thank you for sharing what happened and for the warning to rethink the things we think are safe.
    I am praying for God to comfort your family as only He can do. I am so sorry.
    Love you all,
    Carol

  40. Words cannot express my sorrow of your loss of your beautiful, sweet little boy. I had a similar incident happen with my son when he was around Tiggy’s age, where the tv and dresser fell on him while my Mom was watching him. I remember my extreme fear at him being injured but thankfully my little man was ok. It can happen all too fast and it certainly made me realize that I cannot protect my children from everything. I am praying for you, Dana. And for your beautiful children. When God calls our children home there is nothing we can do. Your sweet Tiggy is now an Angel with God, never to suffer again. I pray your children find peace in this situation and that you do too. ((HUGS))

  41. I’m so sorry about your sweet little boy.I’m praying for you,your husband,and children.Thank you for reminding us about danger’s in the home and reminding us to cherish every moment of our children’s lives.

  42. My deepest condolences to you and your family. My dad had a work colleague who lost his 2 1/2 year old in a similar accident. The family did eventually find healing from the tragedy but it took a long time. May God bring you comfort in this difficult time.

  43. Dana,
    Looking over some of the previous posts (just most recently) I’m pouring tears for you and shaking with fear that this could’ve been me. I, too, am a mother of six, a homeschooler, living in the country..the chores, the woodstove, the baking bread like a pioneer woman…and sitting behind me, a huge, sturdy bookshelf my husband inherited that fascinates the children with its glass doors.
    I’m looking at my home now, at the ordinary, every day things, and being shook to my core.
    And going to hug my babies a little tighter every day.
    Praying for you and your family.

  44. I am so sorry for all of you..Will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and holding the children in my life closer…
    God Bless you…

  45. Weeping with you, for the third time today. I wish too we could bubble wrap our children, but DO NOT blame yourself. It was not your fault. Do not let Satan try to defeat your faith. We do not understand God’s ways and His plans are not ours, but for some reason He decided to take two of my children early (stillborn daughter & 16 year old son) and now your little one. He will grow you thru this and God will, in His time, thru your healing, grow you. Hang on to Him. You remain in His shadow and under His wing.

  46. Your courage is inspiring. I don’t know how you have found the strength to not only write about what happened so soon, but that you also end your post with concern for others.

    Hearts all over the world are with you in prayer for peace and comfort during this most difficult time.

    ((HUGS))

  47. Dana,
    My friend Linda had posted your link asking people to pray for you. I want to tell you how truly sorry I am that such a tragedy has happened to you and your beautiful family. You have my prayers as well as my tears. I’m a mother of three rambunctious children and my husband and I are working on our home and life seems so crazy at times. It’s so easy to take for granted our precious children and overlook so many hazards that exist in our houses that we really don’t think about. This could have easily been me, it could happen to anyone. You are a special woman who is able to look beyond the infathomable pain and save others from having to grieve the loss of their children, while in the midst of grieving your own son. I’m just sorry that this had to happen at all. Still praying for you and your family and sending much love, mother to mother.

  48. A friend shared this post on Facebook, asking for prayer for your family. I am just devastated for you, for this horrible thing that happened. Job’s friends sat with him for an entire week without speaking, simply sharing in his great suffering. There are no words to soothe this ache. None. But I am left with nothing but a computer screen and a keyboard. Though I have no words, my heart groans and weeps for you. I pray that you and your family have someone to sit with you.

    Thank you for stepping out of your grief enough to let us all remember that it doesn’t matter how much precaution you take, this world remains a place of scary possibilities. Thank you for reminding me to cherish each little precious second – no matter how infuriating those might be. We truly cannot know when time will be over.

  49. I know there is nothing I can say to even touch your pain. My thoughts are with you this afternoon. He’s a beautiful little boy.

  50. I am so, so sorry. I wept while reading your post and you are constantly in my thoughts and prayers. My mother’s heart breaks with yours. I will pray for you, your husband, and also your children, the precious siblings of your sweet boy.

  51. Though I don’t know you, I am so sorry to read of your loss. I will pray for you and your family in this time of heartache.

  52. Oh Dana, I am so sorry to read that your Beautiful Tiggy died. My heart goes out to you and the family. No words can I say that would help you right now. Know Tiggy will be remembered in our hearts.

    Go to your heart Dana because you will always find Tiggy there.

  53. I’m so sorry for your loss. It was a terrible accident. I am praying for your children who had to witness it. I hope you are able to get them some therapy to discuss their trauma. They will need it as will you. I am so deeply sorry.

  54. You did it Dana. You wrote it out. Good job. In years to come you’ll be glad you did even though I’m sure it was very painful to do it now. You all remain in my prayers.

  55. I know that words mean nothing at this moment and wish that I could rewind time and make last week return, so that you would have your baby back. God does things for a reason. Why? We don’t know the answer to that, and we never will until we stand before him. My brother lost his little boy, age 3, ( hit by a car) and I watched him and his wife grieve and wanted so much to take the hurt away. I know we don’t know each other, but I would love to take your hurt away as well. I will say prayers for you and your family for comfort, health and grief. Your health is at risk at this time, so please take extra care now. You need to be there for your remaining beautiful and brave children. I would love to do more than pray for you and if there is any thing at all that I can do, please notify me by my email, and I will give you my phone number. I’m sending you many hugs. Your friend in Christ. Nancy

  56. I know not what to say. I am crying for you, for your family, for Tiggy. For all children and families that have to be parted in ways like this. I wish that I could do more. I have not be able to not think about it ever since I heard. I woke up thoughout last night with nightmares. I kept feeling like I was falling through space.
    My prayers are with you throughout each day when it occurs to me. If there is ever anything I can do to help, reach out.

  57. Heavenly Father, I pray that you would comfort this family and give them strength as is needed during this difficult time. May we continue to lift each other up. In Yeshua’s name. Blessings ~Carmen

    I am truly truly sorry to hear of your family’s loss.

  58. Dana,
    I am so sorry for you and your family. You are in our thoughts in prays. I have a child the same age and I will be going through our home today.

  59. Heavenly Father I lift this family up to you and ask that you would give them the strength that they need during this difficult time in their lives. In Yeshua’s name, Amen.

    I am Truly sorry to have of your loss.
    Carmen

  60. I do not know you or your family, but I do know that I have three children of my own and I cannot imagine the pain and anguish that you all are going through right now! Please know that there are people that are praying for you. I am praying for God to give you strength and to comfort you and your family in your time of need.

  61. I don’t know you personally but came across your request via Heart of the Matter and have been brokenhearted for you the last few days. I agree with #21’s comment. I have a little boy Tiggy’s age who is always climbing and I never would have thought a dresser could be such a danger. So, I thank you for sharing this incredibly painful post with the world, and know that we are holding you up in prayer as you face the worst pain a mother can know.

  62. I am so very sorry I cannot possibly imagine what your family is feeling and how your childrens hearts are aching hugssss and love to your family and prayers to you
    Valerie

  63. I am praying for you. For Jesus’s loving arms to be wrapped around you and your family right now. I cannot begin to fathom the pain that you have. My heart aches for you.

  64. May the love of our wonderful Savior wrap his strong arms around you and comfort you in your loss. Take refuge in the shadow of the Almighty.

    Praying for your family.

  65. I am so very sorry for your loss. I have never happened upon your blog before today. I am praying for your family. I wanted you to know that we had recently moved furniture, but had yet reattached our bookcases with their tethers. In tears, I asked my husband to please immediately go put them back on. My heart is very heavy for you, and I will continue to lift your family in prayer.

  66. (((hugs))) Along with everyone here I send you love and prayers. I know how your heart is hurting and although we all feel your suffering, no one can truly know the depth of hurt you are feeling. All we can do is send you and your family love and prayers to help ease your pain.

  67. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family. May the Lord’s presence and love fill you with peace and comfort during this difficult, difficult time.

    I appreciate you taking time to share your story– it could help save another sweet life. [[hugs]]

    “The eternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms…” Deut. 33:27

  68. We have friends who lost their son in a bunkbed accident at 2.5 years old. I was pregnant with my 4th child at the time and I wept and wept. Then again my daughter, earlier this year, lived only 7 precious weeks with us. I know your pain. I know your numbness. I know your faith. I know your caution. I know your Savior. Lord, I just ask that you give comfort to this hurting mother and family. Praise You for giving us your Son so that we can have eternal life and be with our little ones again…

  69. I am so so sorry for your families loss. You are a brave and strong woman! I remember all too well a year ago making a frantic 911 call, yelling out my address, what happened and feeling lost while we waited. it is a club I wish you and your family did not now belong to. Again so so sorry for the loss of his sweet chubby cheeks, a beautiful little monkey.

  70. I am so, so sorry for your loss. I read this and I am crying for you. I can not imagine it. Words are so inappropriate to convey how much I wish you (or anybody) never had to go through this.

  71. Sending love and heartfelt prayers from our family. I’ve shed many tears for your sweet boy and only wish I’d had the chance to “meet” him earlier instead of just now in this moment of grief.

  72. May peace, comfort, love, and acceptance come to you, your husband, your children and your extended family and friends. I am so very sorry for your pain and loss. So sorry.

  73. Oh Dana,
    My heart aches for you and your family. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. What a wonderful gift Heaven has welcomed. I can only pray that you feel the love from God’s embrace and know that you have a beautiful angel looking over you.

  74. Dana,
    While I know that there isn’t anything that I or anyone else can say to comfort you or bring your beautiful baby boy back, I do want to tell you how sorry I am for you and your family. I have four children ages 6 years down to 6 months. I showed them a picture of your little boy and explained to them what happened…Tiggy’s death won’t be in vain. They were so sad, yet understood the importance of what I was telling them about the dangers of heavy furniture, big TVs, climbing on things, etc. Because of Tiggy, my middle son, Jourdan, who climbs on anything he can find, vowed to stop the climbing and to be more careful. For this I am grateful. I wish that we could rewind back to Saturday for you, Dana. I wish that you and your family wouldn’t know what loss feels like. I will always think about and remember Tiggy for we call our little 6 month old girl Piggy. I hope that one day you will be able to smile and laugh when you think about your little one instead of feeling such sadness. I am certain that Tiggy and his death will touch many, many lives. I wish you nothing but love…I admire your strength, Dana. While I don’t know you, I will always be here to listen. Please take care of yourself and your family. Much love to you

    Marisa

    TheCauseyKids@gmail.com

  75. Father, please surround Dana and her family with the peace, love, and comfort only you can bring. Hold them tight as they experience all the emotions their jars of clay are overflowing with right now. Reveal Yourself to them in ways You never have before. Amen.

  76. I remember seeing my daughter for the last time and holding her after she went to be with Jesus. Like others, it is a club no one wants to be a member of and I’m so sorry you are. My heart aches for you. May God grant you the peace that only He can give at this time.

  77. I am so sorry to read of your devastating pain. No words will help but I will pray for your family.
    Please leave the “what if’s”, this was a terrible accident that could have happened to any family. It is abundantly clear that you are a great mom. Remember only the love and memories. Please, let the what if’s fall by the wayside.

  78. Just read this and having been praying for you and your family. Thank you for posting the warning soon quickly after the tragedy a much needed reminder to ALL of us!

    May God draw you near.

  79. I know not the words to say, but I will be lifting you and your family in prayer. I do know that the Holy Spirit is the Comforter and He will be with you at this time, and give you peace.

  80. I cannot imagine what you are going through. I couldn’t read to the end through all my tears. My heart aches for your loss.

  81. I am heartbroken and crying my eyes out after reading this. I am so sorry for your loss and am lifting your family up in prayer. Praying the Lord will give you strength and comfort.

    God bless,
    Tammy

  82. Dana, my heart aches reading this. I am praying for you and your family. May God’s peace wash over you all.

    Lord, I come to you and ask that you be with this family, cover them in Your peace and love. Be their stronghold during this difficult time. In Jesus name, Amen.

  83. I’m so very sorry this happened. There wasn’t a thing you could have done, though. That dresser falling over happened against all probability. You can’t take all your furniture out of your house. You have guarded against the things which can be guarded against, and that is all we can ask of anyone. Much love to you.

  84. As many, I don’t know you personally but my heart aches for you and your family. I know no words can help, so I will hug my babies tight and make rounds tonight to make sure everything is safe. I’m so very sorry.

  85. I am so, so sorry for your loss. I have tears in my eyes after reading that. You and your family will be in our prayers tonight and tomorrow morning we will head off to the hardware store to secure the dressers.

    There’s nothing comforting I can say to you, but I wanted you to know that your message was heard.

  86. I just want to encourage you, Dana, to hold on tight to your husband and children. Let them cling to you. Let them ask their questions that will make others uncomfortable. Answer them openly and frankly. Let them grieve. Let yourself grieve. Know that the hole in your heart will never be filled, except by the love and comfort of Christ.

    Praying that you will find the peace and comfort that will be needed for the rest of your days on this earth. My soul grieves with yours. May the Lord reign and be lifted up through your heart-wrenching loss.

    In His love, Bunni

  87. I pray that your family heals some from this very dramatic and freakish accident. You are a great mother and you cannot possibly bubble wrap the world, be at every place at every moment. Your children are very brave also and they should know they did everything they possibly could. I will pray for your saddened hearts. <3 Your baby is an angel and god wanted him back. Hugs and love

  88. Dana,

    My heart feels the weight of your little boys life gone too soon. I know it had to be hard to write all of that during this time….but thank you. Thank you for allowing us to be there in some small way with you.

    Our prayers, faith and love go out to you and your precious family tonight.

    Beth

  89. Dana~
    I’m so sorry… Oh, my. I am so sorry.
    I skimmed the post. Jocelyn let me know this morning before I ever got out of bed what you posted, and I just can’t read it yet. I am already beside myself and sobbing. Know you have my heart in this, and I am praying for you and your entire family. I am so sorry for you all that you have to live this.
    Oh, I wish my words could help, but I know they are not enough… as if anything could be at this time….

    All I can say is how sorry and heartbroken I am for you all…. Ohhhhh… my heart aches for you all.

    May Abba wrap his arms around your hearts until you can breathe again, and then forever….
    Love you Dana. May YHVH give you all his Shalom.

  90. like others cannot stop my tears, first time ever i read your blog, did not want to finish it cause i sensed something bad would happen and it did. i am a mother of four and a moslim, we believe everything happens for a reason, so dont blame yourself, you couldnt do anything, it was his time to go, we believe children go to paradise like christians do, so dont worry about him, he is really in a better place. only how to survive this, it will be very difficult, you will have some very though times and you will never heal completely but it will get better, i promise you, pain will ease with time, i know i will never forget about him and i didnt even see a picture of him and i will pray for your family especially for you, because it is the most difficult one mother can experience. my son’s friend died last year age of 8 on a bike accident, i witnessed his mother’s pain. it was terrible. but she is doing better now. this life is short, there is an eternal life where you will meet him again….hang in there

  91. I can not imagine your unbearable pain, but I have to thank you for sharing this story so that other kids will be safe. Your boy is the guardian angel of many, many children.

  92. So terribly sorry that this happened. I pray for God’s peace for you and your family. Keep your mind on that wonderful day when you and the rest of your family will have a joyous reunion with your little boy.

  93. Oh my, I am so very very sorry to read of such a tragic and devastating loss.

    Thinking of you all, and keeping you firmly in my prayers.

    Much love
    Julia

  94. Dana, I read your blog which was passed on by another loving mom. I read it, wept, and prayed. Prayed for your strength to keep your faith strong, your family close and your friends at hand. Be lifted sweet one in knowing that God will be with you at this time. He will give you peace. Grace is at hand, and Christ will cradle you. I am praying also for your other sweet children who were there during this accident. I pray that they be comforted as well. Go forth tomorrow knowing that many are praying for you and your family.

  95. I am so very sorry that your family is enduring this time of tragedy. I cannot imagine what you are going through and so admire your ability to share your story so that others are aware of dangers they might not have been otherwise. Prayers for you and your family!

  96. Crying with you and praying for you.

    I’m thankful for the time that Tiggy was here — I loved reading his birth story! — and for the precious moments and joy he brought to your life.

    Praying that all those who have heard this story will be drawn closer to the Lord. As I read it to my children (five of them, also homeschooled 🙂 ), they were reminded of their own mortality and wanted to be reminded of their salvation so they could be with Jesus when they died. None of us knows when we will be called home! Thank you for sharing this story and giving us the opportunity to have this conversation. It must have been extremely painful to write this post, yet it has been a tremendous blessing to read.

    I look forward to meeting Tiggy someday in Heaven! (And my unborn little one, too!)

    Praying that the Lord would bring comfort and peace tomorrow as Tiggy’s life is honored.

    You are loved!!

  97. My heart aches for you & your family. I’m speechless & saddened by your loss. You are in my prayers. I’m praying even now. Oh,God wrap Dana & her family in Your arms. Tragedy & pain are not Your design & You know the same horrible loss of a son. Turn their sorrow into joy knowing that their son lives in eternity with Your Son.

  98. Dana,

    I am so sorry for your loss. I am crying along with you. May God hold you close in His arms.

    You will be in my prayers.

  99. I am so deeply sorry…words just don’t seem to express just how truly sorry I am. You and your family are in my prayers!!!

  100. You are a wonderful mother, Dana! I am crying for you and with you… praying fervently for you and your family. Know that God walks with you through this fiery trial. Cling to Him!

  101. I am very sorry for your loss. Were you able to discover why exactly the dresser tipped? It seems so odd that a dresser as heavy as you describe would tip over all of a sudden. Did someone accidentally bump into it or climb on it?

  102. no words…no words from a mother missing in her arms a certain someone to another mother whose arms will be forever empty of their baby…know That I read, I cried, and I know the guilt will eat you alive. Try to get through each second, moment by moment. I will check my home for the same as I did all those years ago…signs of potential tragedies…cyber (hugs) from me to you

  103. I am very sorry for your loss. Were you able to discover why exactly the dresser tipped over? A dresser as heavy as you describe wouldn’t usually tip over on its own. Did someone accidentally bump into it?

  104. I’m still so shocked by it all….I’m so sorry that you are living through this horrible nightmare. The pain seems so unspeakable, I can’t imagine how hard it is. I pray that God’s love and grace are so palpable–more real than it ever has been for you. That He will hold you through this, when you are weary and it seems to be too much–that He will strengthen you and give you peace that passes all understanding…Because neither depth nor height, nor present nor future, nor death nor life can keep you from the love of Christ.

  105. I’m so heartbroken for your loss. May the Lord offer you great strength through this unimaginable time. God bless you and your family. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

  106. I am so sorry for your loss. So sorry. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. You will be in our prayers. God Bless you.

  107. Dearest Dana-
    I just want you to know that I am so heartbroken for your family. My mommy heart felt the pain, longing and immense love in this post describing this HORRIBLE accident. I will lift your family in prayer.

    I pray you feel God’s comforting hand upon you and your precious children.

  108. I know there are absolutely no right words to say. But thank you for taking the time to write this in the hope that it spares even one other family the grief. I am so very sorry for your loss. May Tiggi rest peacefully until you are reunited. You are in my thoughts and prayers as well.

  109. oh. oh, my god. i am so, so sorry. there are no words. it is my worst fear, to lose one of my babies, and it can happen to anyone at any time. i weep for you, and i pray that you and your family find peace.

  110. Deeply grieved for you and your family and and trusting the Lord to give you His comfort that only He can. My heart aches for you all. And yes, I will go bubble wrap my home now.

  111. My heart breaks for you and your family. Thank you so much for sharing this. Tomorrow I am making my husband secure every piece of furniture that we should have done long ago. Prayers for you and your family.

  112. Somehow Dana, your words have managed to encourage and inspire even in the midst of a grief so deep it cannot be imagined!! You have been…and continue to be….such an incredible blessing to so many!! Thank you, Dana, for allowing us to share, in a small way, in your suffering. I hope and pray that in choosing to do so, you will in turn be strengthened by the thoughts and prayers of those who are grieving with you. Praying for you.

  113. Tonight we all joined hands around the table and prayed for each of you. Tears flooded my eyes, because just three years ago my little brother was killed suddenly in a traumatic accident. I know a little of what you are going through, though not from a mommy standpoint.
    My prayer tonight is that you feel the presence of Jesus near you (each of you) through all the many emotions of the next days, week and months. I promise to pray for you each time God brings you to my mind.
    Thank you for sharing, for reminding each of us how short our time with our little ones really may be.
    With tears and prayers, LeAnn
    P.S. Found your blog through Stacy – “With Great Joy”

  114. my heart is aching and hurting for your loss. im so sorry you have experienced this extruciating loss and i can only pray for your heart and for you to be able to grieve your son. i couldnt even imagine not being able to look at my son and hold him. i will keep your family and your son in my prayers

  115. We’re all praying for you, Dana… I upgraded your Photobucket account so that we could continue to see your wonderful pictures – all of the traffic knocked them offline.

  116. Dana –

    Just want you to know how sorry we all are here at out home, how sad we are with you. What a beautiful little boy you had, and I’m so grateful that you shared him with your readers, with the world. I’m thankful that you are a writer, that you have written memories of Mattias.

    We will be praying for you and your husband and children for a long, long time. I wish you all the peace one could possibly have at this time. (())

  117. I am so, so sorry. Your dear, precious baby. I am so sorry.

    I’m a mother too. I wanted to know what happened, because I wanted to see if I had covered that base here, to see if I could keep my children safe and avoid this kind of pain to my heart. But keeping my kids safe, for sure and really? I can do my very best–just like you have so faithfully done your very best–but our children are not the kind of creatures that can be kept perfectly safe. And this broken world is no longer the kind of place that can be perfectly safe.

    If I could know all that was happening to all of my children all the time, if I could be everywhere they are all the time, if I could accomplish all that I ever desire to do, then I could keep my kids here with me, safe and well. But these are the things that only God can do, and I am just a human mother. I can’t know everything, I’m only in one place at a time, and much that I would like to do can’t be accomplished by human hands.

    Oh, God, how I look forward to the day when all of our painful and horrible losses come untrue and tears are wiped from our eyes, when our families are again united around your Throne to praise you forever and ever.

    Oh, God of all comfort, please comfort your people–parents, brothers, sisters, grown-up people and little children. Oh, God, keep the hearts of the Hanleys stayed on You, trusting You. They will continue to trust and love You if You hold their hearts. Please, Lord, hold their hearts. Please send face-to-face friends to hug and help. Give wisdom to their church, that the deep love and sorrow that they share with the Hanleys will be translated to words and acts that are even a little bit of comfort in the deepest kind of sorrow.

    Oh, Lord, how dreadful. We do not even know how to pray, but we know that your Holy Spirit prays for us and that you do for your people more than we ask or think. So, please, Father, please bless the Hanley family. And, please, Father put it in the hearts of many, many Christians to remember them, not to forget, to still be praying for them a year and two years and five years from now. They need Your help all the rest of the way.

  118. Though we don’t know each other and I’ve never even seen your site before, my heart breaks for you tonight. I know words do little to lessen your overwhelming grief, but I want you to know how incredibly thankful I am that you shared your heart-wrenching story.
    My 3 year old son has one of those very same solid wood, very sturdy dressers in his room that will now be attached to his wall….along with all the other furniture that we should have done the same thing to a long time ago.

    My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

  119. May the Lord keep you all tightly in His arms. I cannot imagine the pain you must feel. You are living through every mother’s worst nightmare. Your little one is with Jesus watching over you. He will always be with you and you will see him again in heaven. I pray that you can find the strength to make candy canes like you wanted and take comfort in knowing that your little one is in no pain, he is happy, and he will be a good little boy in heaven. Big hugs from me to you.

  120. I just wanted to say how very sorry I am for your loss. As a mother, my heart is broken with yours, and I cry tears with you. May the Lord wrap you in His love and comfort, and give you peace in knowing that He is holding your precious baby boy, your entire family, and YOU!

  121. Thank you for sharing this story. I am checking my house and making it safer. I like you thought that sturdier dressers and furniture would not fall and have placed TV’s on things. I am rethinking of where to now put my children’s new TV they are getting for Christmas. Telling your story may save someones life. Thank You so much. I can not imagine your pain but I have lost a son in a diffrent way. Loss is so hard and so personal to each one. Praying for you.

  122. I am so very sorry for losing your baby. Oh, my heart breaks for you. I can’t even imagine. I will be praying for you and your family constantly. I will be checking our home too as we have a little one as well. Again, so very sorry.

  123. I am so sorry for your loss… my daughter is just a little younger and I don’t know if she could understand why I squeezed her a whole lot after I read this.

  124. I came here because someone posted this link on Twitter and now I am crying for you and your family. I am so so sorry for your loss and my heart and thoughts go out to you and your family.

  125. Oh, I am without words. I am so very sorry for your family’s loss, my heart breaks and I am sobbing as I write this. I truly can not imagine your pain. My prayers will be with you.

  126. Holding your family up in prayer…I am crying with you. I am so sorry for your loss. There really are not words. You are so brave to be able to type this up, to share your tragedy with others.
    You are a blessing. Prayers always…

  127. Dearest Dana, you are so loved, so brave, and so lifted up in prayer. It took a few sessions to get through your story. We are all praying, aching, weeping with you. I’m praying for every single member of your family–you, your husband and each of your children, taking them before the throne of God, to have strength, grace to cover every thought, peace to comfort every fear, life to infuse a numb soul. We love you.

  128. Dana,

    My husband are touched deeply with grief and sorrow for you and your family. We’ll be praying for your family in the months to come. Words just don’t seem to be enough. We are standing with you, Dana. Praying. Cling to Christ.

  129. Dana, I am terribly sorry for your loss. August 23, 2008, our 2 year old was the victim of a tragic dresser accident in which he was climbing up the dresser, it fell and a drawer pinned him against the end of the bed, cutting off his airflow. My 12 year old son was the first to find him. I can still hear him scream Jacob’s name in a way that I knew my life was going to be forever changed. I am here to tell you that through all of the pictures in your head, all of the hard to answer questions from your kids, never being sure how to answer the “how many kids do you have” question…through the grace of God, you will survive this! I needed to know that when Jacob died and nobody could tell me that. Well, I can tell you that it’s a long, difficult road, but there will be joy again. There will be birthday and holiday celebrations. God is a good God. You could not have known what would happen. You are not to blame. Please feel free to contact me.

  130. Today is the first time I have read your blog. You are a very gifted writer. I have no words for the heartbreak you are feeling. I can only offer my prayers. Praying that the loving arms of God will wrap you and your family so that you can get through this difficult time.

  131. I have nothing different to say here, but wanted you to know I’m grieving with you on behalf of your precious little one and I’m so so so so sorry this happened. So sorry.

  132. Dear Dana,

    I cried just reading your post. My heart breaks for you and your family. I’m just one of so many who loves and cares about you. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Lots of love and ((((hugs)))),

    Deb

  133. Just want you to know that my heart is with you! Praying for peace that passes all understanding and for you to feel His love in this difficult time. What a beautiful sweet boy he was and how blessed you are to have loved him so well!!

  134. I just had to add to this list of responses and say that you and your family are being held in prayer. I am so sorry for your loss. You sound like an amazing Mother and I truly believe you did everything just right. Tiggy is your forever family angel. Praying for your healing heart.

  135. Lifting you up in prayer…

    Word just can’t even say how sorry I am for you and your precious family.

    Father, be ever present with them now, and in the days to come, and on into the future. We cannot understand your ways, but we can have faith and believe your Words. You have prepared a place for us, and we trust that this precious little boy is there with You now and will be reunited with his loved ones in that blessed someday… In Jesus’ name, Amen.

  136. I just wanted to add my thoughts and prayers to those above. You and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers since I heard on Monday and will continue to be. I cried as I looked at Tiggy’s picture. He was so beautiful. And I have hugged and held my kids tighter. I am praying for God’s perfect peace to help you all. You are going through this, that means it will get better. And this life is but a vapor and then you’ll all be together so joyfully. Love and hugs.

  137. I am so, so sorry. I know there is no word that can provide you with some comfort, so I’ll just pray for all of you…my heart is with you and your familly

  138. I am very sorry about Tiggy, a beautiful little baby. I was coming to say thankx for visiting my blog, but now I learned of this. I am saying a prayer for your family, I am wishing you the best.

  139. I am so sorry that your family is going through this tragedy. I hope you find peace and that you can make it through today, tomorrow and the next. I don’t know much about your personal beliefs. I just found your blog. But I hope your faith can support you. And if you don’t have faith, may you lean o the love and faith of others for support and love.

  140. I know how if feel when you loss your love one. I’m so sorry for your loss. My heartfelt sympathy goes with and your family. My family and I will pray for you and your family for peace and healing… May the Lord guide and comfort you all always. Take care and God bless…

  141. My heart aches with you. May you find comfort in the memories you hold dear in your heart and in knowing that you will be reunited with him someday. You are in my prayers.

  142. Oh Dana, we do not know each other I just learned of your loss from a post from Home Educating Family Magazine and Well Planned Day Homeschool Planner. My heart is broken for your and your families loss. It is so easy to look back and say “if only I had…..”. Please rest in God’s loving arms and do not ever blame yourself. Thank you for sharing your story so that we can all be more aware of our homes and our children’s safety, and so that we can lift you and your family up in prayer. I will be praying for you all day tomorrow and for the days to come. Blessings, hugs and love to you.

  143. There are no words to ease your pain or unbreak your heart. My mother’s heart cries for you.

    Thank you so much for posting about this, though. I have a toddler who is almost exactly the same age as Tiggy, and she’s a daredevil and a climber. I’ve been meaning to put a furniture strap on a tall/heavy piece of furniture, but I’ve been putting it off because of the inconvenience. I will not wait another day.

    I cringe when I hear people say “Things happen for a reason” as I don’t see any reason for such a huge loss. But what I do know is that your Tiggy will save lives. Parents like me, who have been putting off those important tasks, will be moved to take a closer look at the dangers in the house.

  144. Dana,

    My heart is absolutely breaking for you. I cannot begin to imagine your heartache over this tragedy. Like some other women in your comments have posted, I too had my child go through a dresser accident. I was very fortunate in that she only lost the tips of two of her fingers, but the images of that day will never leave me. I couldn’t sleep for weeks as I kept replaying the events of that night over and over again, wondering what I could have done differently, begging God to bring a miracle so her fingertips could be reattached (they couldn’t). Please know that you are not alone, and God has never left your side!

    I’ll be praying for you and your family.

  145. It was a normal thing to say. I want you to have another mother’s word on that when those thoughts get to you–as many other mothers as possible. They were normal choices to make–furniture, bedtimes, looking for ways to settle the kids in gently.

    God help us, I don’t know why, Dana. Sometimes there is no “why” on this earth. I just know that heaven holds you.

  146. I am so sorry for all the pain you are all going through! My heart is just breaking! Your sweet boy did not die in vain though. I know he will save lives through you! I am another one of those people who has been putting this off for some time. It just seems like such a pain to secure all that furniture and I don’t know how to do it exactly and I have never actually seen anything fall before. Man does that sound so stupid now. My goodness would I trade a million billion trillion pain the butt furniture straps for my baby’s life as I know you would too. You were doing your best and there was no way to know. Thank you for telling us and letting us know what happened. I will secure our furniture and the tv on top of my dresser and I don’t think I would have if you had not shared your story. Thank you so much!

  147. I am so sorry for your loss. Your family will remain in our prayers. No words can comfort you right now, I won’t even try. Just know that you are thought of.

  148. I am praying for strength for you though you sound incredibly strong. But the days ahead will try to rob you of your energy and even of your faith. So I will just pray for continued strength. I hope all who read your story do as you ask and check their homes with fresh eyes. Your little boy is a beautiful, beautiful child. Gold bless you and your family.

  149. words cannot express my deepest condolences to you and your family.

    “Christ is RISEN, and not one remains in the grave.” John Chrysostom from his Paschal homily.

    May you find a place of peace and rest during these upcoming difficult days and months.

    D

  150. As I read, tears are streaming down my face. My heart is so heavy with grief for your family…for you unbelievable loss. I pray that God will comfort you with HIS strong, loving hands. I pray that God will wipe away the painful memories during those moments as well. Thank you for sharing, I can’t imagine how difficult it must be to write the words, but I believe many lives will be saved as a result. My prayers for you and your family will continue.

  151. I am so sorry and cannot fathom your loss. I prayed for you heartily last night and will continue to do so. I will take your advise and appreciate the mischiefs. Thank you for pouring your heart out so the world could not only know your story but change other’s lives in the process.

    Laura

  152. I’m weeping, hurting for you. I’m hearing my 4 little ones arguing with eachother, and restraining myself from yelling at them. I just want to hug them now. I’m praying for peace and comfort to wash over you. I am so very sorry.

  153. words are not enough, I just wish I could say anything , anything to help . . . but words just aren’t enough. You will be in our hearts and prayers xxxxxx

  154. Eternal rest grant unto him O Lord and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul and the souls of all the faithful departed rest in peace. AMEN.

  155. I saw this through a Facebook link. It brought me to tears. I am so, so sorry for you and your family on the loss of your beloved son. I can barely imagine the pain you are going through and it’s heartwrenching.
    I also have to thank you. After reading this (with my 14 month old son in my arms nursing) I was struck with fear. What if it could happen to us? Your words to look around our house really got to me. I checked out our furniture and found something scary: the gorgeous glass front display case, the tall one right beside the box of toys that our toddler keeps trying to break into by pulling the locked doors toward himself, was surprisingly top heavy. Both my husband and I checked and confirmed that our 14 month old could indeed pull the whole thing, glass doors and all, straight over on himself. The most surprising part? The display case itself had an unused tether attached to the back that we hadn’t thought much about, AND it was positioned such that the tether lined up perfectly with a stud in the wall. It seriously only took five minutes to determine all this, get the tools, securely attach the case to the wall, and test it’s strength (that case is going nowhere now!). Why we haven’t done this before… I don’t know. We just simply didn’t think about it until now. We’ve worked to baby proof so much yet somehow this one simple thing never crossed our mind.
    I know it’s small comfort to you at this point, but I just had to let you know about it. We’ll never know what could have happened had we left the case untethered, but there is a possibility that by posting this you saved my tiny, bubbly, curious little boy’s life, and the lives of other children whose families you’ve reached. Thank you, and my prayers are with you and your family.
    -Megan

  156. Oh, Dana! I cried all the way through that. What a precious boy, what a sad loss. I will be checking my home with new eyes today and kissing my boys with more fervency. Still praying for you and your sweet family.

    Kathy

  157. My heart aches for you. Thank you so much for sharing your story and your sweet little boy. I am crying, holding my little man and watching my children in a whole new way. I heard about your story through a mutual friend. I am so sorry.

  158. I have never read your blog before today, I was lead here from another blog. I am so sorry for your loss of your son. I was 8 years old when I watched my 6 year old brother hit and killed by a drunk driver. Please make sure to love your other children, please reassure them that they didn’t do anything wrong, that they did everything right. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

  159. Dana…I have been praying for your family since Spunky Homeschool a mutual friend on facebook posted your story, and the need for prayer. I prayed for your family and for your deep loss. I have been checking back to see if any details would be given. I read “What happened”. I burst into tears out loud sitting in my living room. My husband and children said why are you crying? What’s wrong? I had told them that your little boy died, and you posted the details. I am completely heartbroken over you loss. It brings comfort to my heart that you are a Christian. I know Jesus will hold you in HIS arms, and bring comfort to your heart and your family. I will continue to pray for you. I know we are strangers but I am sending all love and prayers Dana. I wish I had more comforting words, but please feel my heart in my message. I look forward to seeing you in heaven and your precious little Tiggy.

    To the Big sister: You are a wonderful and protective sister! If you were my daughter you would be my hero. What a good girl, you did exactly what a wonderful, loving sister would do. You tried to save your little brother. I know you will be sad for your whole life, please take comfort in that you tried to save him. From another mom’s heart, I am so proud of you!

    All my love….Melissa Jones

  160. Just heard about this via Facebook. I have no words to ease your pain. I can not imagine your heart right now. You and your family are in our prayers. I can not understand God’s will, but maybe you saved someone else’s child by this post. I know that is of little comfort to you now but I hope every day, every hour, every minute finds you healing…just a little.
    God bless you everyone.

  161. Dear Dana, I don’t know you, but my heart breaks for you and your family. May you, as a family, be intensely aware of God’s intimate presence. May you feel His everlasting arms carry you, every step of the way, and may you find rest as He gives you a kiss of life and nurse you to wholeness. Please, do be gentle on yourself.

  162. I just read your story (was directed here from Blossoming Joy blog) and my family will be praying for you all today. Thank you for sharing your story and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  163. Dana,

    I found your story through facebook too. Jacque Dixon linked to it. I am so sorry for your loss. I sobbed the whole way through reading this. I have a son almost exactly the same age as your Tiggy. Lifting you up in prayer.

  164. My boyfriend had recently wanted to put our huge tv on a giant old chest that we have. I told him no, absolutely not. Now it is on a bookshelf in our room. I am going to anchor it to the wall!!!!
    I am so sorry for your loss, I cried while reading this. I wish I could hug you and take your pain away, but I know there are some things that can’t be comforted. I know that the pain will never go away, but you’ll find ways to cope.
    Sending love and light your way.

  165. you and your family are in our prayers. we prayer that Mary will comfort you in her warm embrace and that Oure Heavenly Father fill you with His peace.
    Pax Christi – Lena and family

  166. My heart just breaks for you and your family. I’m weeping with you guys… Praying that He holds you every step of the way thru the grief process.

  167. I am praying for you. My heart is overwhelmed with pain for you. I know I am a stranger, but believe that I am praying that you and your family will feel God’s strength and love.

  168. I cannot begin to imagine the horror of that night or the emptiness without your precious child. I am so very sorry for your loss and I am praying for you and your family. Thank you for sharing your story. It makes us realize once again, something we should never forget. Our lives can be changed for ever in the blink of an eye. I have no words but I share my tears with you and pray for God to surround you with his love and give you peace and comfort.

  169. May the GOD of all grace be with you and your family.
    HE alone is the greatest comforter of all.
    Your little one is in Heaven…as is my son who was 9 months old when he passed from this life to Heaven. (his story is on my blog..Stephen)
    Let the peace of GOD that passeth all understanding be with you.
    Praying..
    HOPE

  170. I know that there is nothing I can say to ease your pain or comfort you. We prayed for you when we heard about this and prayed this morning for your family.

    I haven’t read all the comments, so I don’t know if anyone has said this. Your Tiggy is a hero. He was helping to protect his sister. He was like Jesus, giving his life for another. I don’t know if that comforts you or not, but I wanted to say that we read your story and thought of that immediately. God be with you in this.

  171. I am terrible sorry for your loss. I am thinking of you and your family today. I hope you don’t mind but I shared your blog on my facebook page. I have many friends who have young children and I think your blog should be read so they can recognize the dangers in their own home. Thank you for being brave enough to share this!

    My heart is with you!

  172. My heart is breaking for you…prayers for you, my sister in Christ. Prayers for you, your husband, your children. God give you peace & strength, His love.

    I’m so sorry.

  173. OMG, I don’t know what to say. What a terrible, terrible tragedy. I wish there is something I could do to undo this. I can’t imagine. We moms do everything to keep our kids safe, but we can’t be everywhere at all times.

    Thank you for sharing this with all of us, and reminding us to secure furniture to the walls and hugging our little ones even more…

    I’m so, so sorry…

    Big hug,
    Dagmar
    Dagmar’s momsense

  174. There are no words to describe how truly sorry I am to read your post. I’ll pray for you during this incredibly difficult time.

  175. There are no words. But I couldn’t read this and slink away without honoring you, your family, your little Tiggy and your courage to share with a brief thank you and my deepest condolences. May the LORD God envelope you with His peace and abiding companionship as you move forward.

  176. I can’t begin to express the sorrow I feel for you, despite the fact that we’ve never met. My heart was pounding in my chest as I read that. I wish I could pick my kids up from school early today to give each one of them a hug.

  177. I am so sorry, so so so sorry. I can’t imagine. My sincerest condolences to you. That doesn’t seem to be the right words for this tragedy. Praying for you and your family.

  178. Dana, I don’t know how you were able to write this, thank you for doing so.
    Our thoughts are with all of you this week.
    I hope that you will be able to find some strength from all of us as we pray for your family.

  179. my heart and body are literally aching as I read this and i am crying as I type this… wishing i could say something that would help ease your pain. know that you are being covered by prayer. May God comfort you and give you rest and peace.

  180. There are no words. Years ago our oldest — a 2-year-old — was supposed to be napping in her room. I heard a thud. When I went to investigate she was sitting in the bottom drawer of a dresser. The dresser was about a foot away from the wall braced only by the drawer. The dresser was not heavy, nor had we anchored it to the wall. We hadn’t even tested it to see how heavy it was. I never thought our daughter was heavy enough or would have the strength to move it. I had a real scare that day.

    Sending prayers to your family.

  181. A dresser just fell on my 3 year old little girl the other day. We had moved it, and they pulled out too many drawers, and it tipped. She’s fine – she barely had a scratch.

    I am so, so sorry. I wish with all my heart that you could say the same thing. I don’t know or understand why we were lucky and you weren’t. Because we buy cheap furniture? I just feel sick for you. I am so sorry. I’m going to go hug my baby.

  182. This is my first visit to your blog as well… and while I hate it is under these circumstances, I am grateful to see that out of tragedy, your blog friends are getting an army of people to pray for you. Even when it is so hard to know what to pray… or what to say. I am so sorry to hear of this tragic loss… and all I can say is that I know from friends that life gets easier over time… and yet I know that is probably not what you want to hear right now either. Praying for God-given strength for you to get through, and that he will send people you know to be with you and remind you of his presence.

  183. Dana, I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious little boy. May God wrap His loving arms tightly around each of you and give you all of His love, comfort, strength, and the peace only He can give. I pray that this tragedy will not be in vain, and reading through the other comments, it is not. Other parents will take action (and already are) to protect their kids from from furniture tip-overs. While that cannot possibly take away the pain of your loss, hopefully it will bring a small measure of comfort that your sweet little angel is saving other lives.
    (((HUGS))) to you and your family. God be with you.

  184. My deepest and heartfelt condolences goes out to you and your family. I admire your strength and consideration that during this traggic time you have taken the time to warn other’s. I will keep uou and you family in my prayers.

  185. I am so very sorry for your loss. I have a son, he is 3. He is my life. Literally, I am a stay-at-home mom to him and him only. He is my baby. And I don’t know how I would function if anything did happen to him. So I am very, very sorry that you have to go through this. I don’t know what to say, except I am thinking of you and a happy holiday for your family.

  186. This mother’s heart breaks right alongside thee. There but for the grace of God go any one of us.

    I pray our Lord comfort thee now and forevermore, and give thee a bit of His peace which passeth all understanding…

    Plant a tree; start a garden, do whatever you need to in order to find your balance once again.

    And know that I honor thee. I have no sense that I could be as courageous and graceful in the face of such tragedy as thee is being, but I pray for such.

  187. Thank you for sharing this with everyone, Dana. I am sure that was very difficult to do- as parents it is hard not to think that everything that happens to our children is somehow our ‘fault’. But all we can do is take reasonable precautions and then trust God with our lives and the lives of our children. I wondered the whole time my oldest son was in Iraq if I would see him again, but I know that whether they are at home in the bathtub or on a battlefield, they are in the hands of God.

    We are still thinking of and praying for you and your family.

  188. Every inch of my heart aches for your family. I cry for you loss, your pain and the questions you have in your mind. There is nothing you can change, but there is something that I can. I promise to take a look around my home as you requested and to try hard to not take a single moment for granted with my babies (2 yrs and 6 mos). God bless you and your family as you lean on Him for strength to carry on. He will carry you. He will help you find peace again. He will help you understand any “I wish” or “what if” that you have, and He will hold you and love you unconditionally through every gamut of emotion you feel. You will hear the sweet melody of his laughter, the joy of smiles and the warm touch of his hugs and kisses again. Only for the moment, you are storing it in your heart and mind. God is keeping him safe till he is running to your arms again and then you will never be apart. All our love, sister in Christ, and all our prayers, are for you and your family.

  189. I heard about your story via FB. Unfortunately, I know all too well what you’re going through. My oldest son, Payton David, was killed instantly when he pushed our TV and it slid off the cart right on top of him. He was 3yrs, 5months and 6 days old. That happened 5 years, 8 months and 3 days ago (April 13, 2005) and I still think about him every single day. What a blessing to be his mother for that short time; I cherish the memories!
    We received lots of books from people and two were very helpful to us. The first was actually for our close friends and family to read, so they could better understand our grief journey. It’s called “Tear Soup” and you can find it here:
    http://www.amazon.com/Tear-Soup-Pat-Schweibert/dp/0961519762/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1292542951&sr=1-1

    The other book was called “Holding on to Hope” and here’s the amazon link:
    http://www.amazon.com/Holding-Hope-Pathway-through-Suffering/dp/1414312962/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1292542923&sr=1-1

    Maybe one of your friends will see this post and buy it for your family ASAP. Here’s what I know for sure. God is faithful and His grace is sufficient. I am praying for you. PLEASE, email me anytime. We’re part of the same club now. 🙁
    In Christ,
    Mary Franks
    Kentwood, MI

  190. I am so sorry for the tragic loss for your family. I can’t even imagine the pain you must be feeling. I am praying for God’s comfort for you and your family.

  191. I am so sorry that this happened! I can’t even begin to imagine the plethora of emotions you all must be feeling. I wish there were something I could do or say that would make it all go away. We serve a great God and I know, that I know, that I know, that He will scoop you up and hold you close.

    I also wanted to thank you for being so brave during this time. Your honest and heartfelt recollection of the incident is going to help another family somewhere. I am sure it was extremely difficult to type all that out. I just want you to know that I am sharing this information with everyone I know.

    Heavenly Father, please keep this family very close to you. Provide them comfort, rest and peace. Please use this story to save another child somewhere. Let only good results be known. Amen

  192. Dana, there are no words. Only groanings too deep for words on your behalf to our Father. I’m holding you and your family in my heart, thoughts and prayers.

  193. There are no words I can offer that will be of any comfort to you, oh, but how I wish there were! I can only imagine the pain the you must be overcome with.
    You, and your entire family, are in my prayers.

  194. Dana, I am so deeply sorry for your loss.

    I am shaking with the memory this brings back, for we nearly lost our toddler son Andrew in the EXACT same way.

    I remember the fear…moving the furniture out of the way…

    I remember screaming…

    Oh, Dana… Dear God…I am so, so sorry.

    I wish I could hug you…

  195. I love you, Dana. I am so so sorry for your lost. I wish words were enough to convey the comfort I pray you and your family find. In Jesus’ name.

  196. Dear Dana, I am hugging my little boys a little more closely these days. You gave Tiggy a wonderful life, full of love and faith. I know you are just aching for him. May the peace that passes all understanding be yours, your husband’s and your children’s now, and forevermore after this heartbreak. My your family draw even closer to one another as you keep Tiggy’s memory alive. These are and will be my prayers for you.
    Love in Christ, Susan

  197. Dana,

    My heart aches for you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that I am praying for you and will ask others to pray for you and your family as well.
    May the God of all comfort comfort you and your family in this sorrowful time.

    Much Love,
    Heather L.

  198. I learned about your tragedy from Valerie Jacobsen. I cannot begin to imagine your grief. My heart is breaking for you and your family – my cheeks wet from sobbing as I read your story. You are in my prayers as you walk through this valley. I know words can bring no comfort but pray that you are able to feel God’s comfort through your sorrow.

  199. I am really speechless. My heart is broken for you. I know there are no right words to say at this point. Please know that I will be taking your case to our Father in Heaven and will pray diligently for the comfort of your family.

  200. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I couldn’t have read it at a better time. I’ve been having a rough week with my 5 year old, and after reading this, I went back up to re-tuck him in, and we sang the song we used to sing every night before life got in the way. Thank you for the reminder to love him every moment, because it might all change. My prayers are with you and your family.

  201. I came across your blog through a link a friend of mine posted.

    I am so terribly sorry for your loss. It’s truly heartbreaking and you’ve been on my mind ever since I heard. If it’s any comfort, know that many are praying.

  202. I don’t know you, or your family. But my heart goes out to all of you. I’m so very sorry for your loss. May God’s peace come to you in time.

  203. Words are just a blur to you now, but please know that when one member of the Body suffers, we all do, and their is a grandmother in California hurting with you now.

  204. I am so deeply sorry for you loss. We are praying for you and your family. Your bravery and concern for others speaks volumes of the kind of person you are. sending you love and lifting you up in prayer.

  205. Dana,

    I am so very sorry for your loss. I truly don’t have the proper words to share with you. I know your baby boy is in heaven with our Lord Jesus, and I will pray that God too, will bring comfort to you and your family.

  206. I haven’t visited your blog before, but a friend shared it. I am so sad for your family and your loss and will have you all in my thoughts. I don’t know how in the world you could have kept something that is such a fluke from happening, but I know that nothing any of us can say to you will make it all right. Just thinking of you all as you figure out how to move forward.

  207. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I have a daughter, she just turned one on dec. 7th. As I wiped my tears after reading this, I looked around and saw thing in a different way. My home isn’t as safe as I thought it was.

  208. J+M+J

    I pray that God will grant you great graces in the midst of your terrible sorrow and that your loving recollections of your precious son will provide you comfort and some peace. God be with you and your family!

  209. I am so so sorry for your loss. The loss of a child takes a part of you that you never get back…somedays are harder than others. I lift you up in prayer and know that God will hold you and your tiggy in his arms. You are a strong and courageous woman.

  210. Lord,

    Hold this family close to Your heart. You know what if feels like to lose a son. A son whose smile could brighten any room. A son so pure and sweet and precious. I know You weep with this family. I know you understand.

  211. My heart is aching for you, Dana. Thanks for sharing your story so openly and honestly and for your words of wisdom and encouragement to those of us with little ones. May God bless you abundantly Dana!
    Heather

  212. Hugs. and tears and more tears and more hugs. Thank you for sharing Tiggy with us and caring enough to help keep our children safe from unseen dangers. Tears and sobs and hugs.

  213. I’m so sorry for your unimaginable loss. Our family has been praying for you and will continue to keep you n our daily prayers.

  214. I’m so sorry for your loss. We lost our brand new baby daughter in May. Losing a child disturbs the natural order. I’m so sorry.

  215. I am also a mother of six with one son waiting for us in heaven. I ache for you and your family. I know the struggles not just of facing the grief, but of parenting grieving children. I also know the amazing love of God and have experienced the “peace that passes understanding”. I truly pray that peace also guards your hearts and minds as you face uncertain days with the certainty of God. Cling to Him. Your world is forever changed, but God is the same. I can say this truly because I have experienced it deeply. Hugs and deep empathy.

  216. I know there are no perfect words when a trajedy like this happens. I am so sorry for your loss, but so grateful for your bravery to post this, I realize it must not have been an easy task especially so soon. I’m moving my dresser into a closet, my husband gave it a good pull and it was far too tippy for my liking. Your can bring some good from this horrible horrible event. I am again so sorry.

    Much Love and Prayers
    Kasey

  217. I pray for your family and cry at your story. May you know that children become instant angels for the Lord you believe in and take some comfort from this.

  218. Dana,

    My heart cries with you and your family in the loss of Tiggy. I’m praying that God gives you His comfort and strength in the days ahead.

  219. Dana,
    I heard about little Tiggy from The Heart of the Matter and although it will not mean much, I do say how sorry I am. I am thankful for a God who knows what it is like to have to say goodbye to a son. A God who is the only One who can truly comfort your heart during this time. Please know that you and your family will be in my prayers. I am thankful that you have reminded me that we are not guaranteed another day here on this earth. Let us live as if we do not have another day. Prayers to you and your family. John 16:33.

    Linda

  220. There are no words to say how sorry I am. I am praying for you all. Thank you for the warnings as well…we are considering dangerous furniture in our home thanks to your courage in writing your story. I know the valley ahead is dark and full of shadows as you grieve for your son. I have never lost a child out in the world — have lost 4 to miscarriage. It’s not the same, I know. Your situation is so much harder. Our losses do make me look forward to heaven even more when I’ll get to see our children who went ahead of us.

  221. Thank you for sharing this…my tears are nothing compared with yours. You and your family are in our prayers. May the good God and His Beloved Mother cradle your beloved ‘Tiggy’ and all of you in His loving mercy.

  222. I’m sorry. I’m just so sorry. I can’t stop crying. I can’t imagine your grief right now. I will be praying for you and your family. I pray that the Lord would reach down and wrap His loving arms around you and carry you through these days, weeks and months ahead.

  223. Dana,

    I am so very sorry about the loss of sweet Tiggy. My heart is with you and your family.

    Your blog was shared from a friend who knew I’d want to reach out to you, for I know first hand what your pain is. I lost my daughter Meghan, six years ago tomorrow, to the very same tragedy. Her dresser, small and sturdy and well-made fell on her while we slept. I work with other parents to try to prevent this tragedy from happening to others and it’s so very frustrating when I learn of another sweet child taken too soon from this earth.

    When and if you are ready, please feel free to contact me. I’d be more than happy to listen, talk and share for few understand the pain of this exact sort of loss. Although I can’t know exactly what you and your family feel for our grief is all very personal, I can certainly understand and share and support you as someone who has been there and lives with it every day.

    I hope you find some comfort in the joy he brought you and the love that will always surround you.

    I’ll ask Meggie to look after him.

    Peace and light to you and your family.

  224. I found your blog through another lady’s blog I follow. I’m sitting here with tears streaming down my cheeks for I can only imagine the heartache you are dealing with. I have a little 1 year old girl and I don’t think I could go on living if something tragic like that ever happened to her. I am praying for God to give you grace and comfort to help you through this. He is able.

  225. Dana –

    I don’t think any words could describe how much my heart is aching for you and your family right now. I am so, so sorry. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

  226. I am more sorry than I can say.
    Please, I hope you find support and comfort in the love of family and friends, even in the care and sympathy of strangers, like me. You are so kind to think beyond your pain, and to remind us all to be aware. I am sad, even angry, that we cannot prevent every tragic outcome… as parents we are ever vigilant, ever cautious, and still bad things happen. It is so very painful and unfair.
    I am sorry. I am sorry. So sorry.

  227. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. As a mother of a current 23 month old and deceased 16 month old your story has touched my heart deeply. I still haven’t been able to share so openly our experiences of losing our daughter. You are brave and inspiring.

  228. I read your post earlier today and have been thinking of you and your family all day. I will be keeping you all in my prayers. So, so very sorry for your loss.

  229. Dear Dana, I’m so sorry. I want to pray with you right now. Blessings, Nicole

    Dear Jesus,
    This hurts, this isn’t what you had planned. But thank you that you are big enough to still bring blessings out of this tragedy. Lord, I lift up Dana and John and the children. Please overwhelm them with your love, peace, healing, and joy. Draw this family closer to you and to each other. Give them the ability to communicate clearly and honestly with each other. As a family show them how to grieve, heal and live. Show Dana and John how much you are carrying them. Help them to rest in your arms. Protect this family. Give Dana and John wisdom in simply how to live and to put one foot in front of the other, how to be in the moment, how to guide their children. Give their family and friends wisdom in how to be supportive. Thank you that you are with this family right now. We love you Jesus.
    ~Amen

  230. Dear Dana,

    My heart aches for you and your family! I am praying for you all during this time. May God give you comfort and strength during your weak moments! ((((((HUGS))))))))

  231. I can say nothing different than what has already been said. You are being upheld in prayer by our family. May the God of all grace uphold you and your family as only He is able. Praying for you.

  232. Dana,
    Someone sent me an email. Someone I only know through blogging. My breath caught when I saw the blog address she was sending me to…and why.

    I’m not sure you remember me. We met through Twitter, I believe. We talked chickens.

    I lost my daughter, Emily, nearly 3 years ago. That is why the blog reader we have in common emailed me.

    I am in tears, fighting to pull a normal breath. Your precious Mattias is beautiful. And your words felt so close to home. I ache for you.

    I don’t expect you to try to read the grieving section of my blog because when I was where you are I couldn’t deal with my own grief let alone someone else’s, but I did want to reach out to you and tell you if you need to talk, I am here. And when you are ready, there are things on the site that might help.

    Praying for you and your family.

  233. Oh Dana, I am so sorry! I am sobbing for you. My little Rebekah passed away just over a month ago. She was the same age as your little Tiggy. I will be praying for you and your family.
    With much love and prayers,
    Sarah Proud

  234. hi dana, i left a response on here 2 days ago and ironically my own little girl passed away yesterday – also sudden. she was 3 years old. i don’t know whether you will ever read this, but wanted you to know that am sharing the same pain and understand your sorrow. may both our sweet angels rest in peace. xx

  235. So sorry for your loss. As painful as it probably was, sharing your story will help you grieve. It will also hep remind people of the important things you mentioned.
    Praying for you and your family…

  236. Just letting you know that a stranger in California is crying and praying right alongside you. God said that He draws near to the brokenhearted and that He is a strong tower of refuge. He is acquainted with suffering and keeps all your tears, until finally – He wipes every tear from your eye.

  237. I wish I could write words that would take away all your heartache, all your pain and grief. I cannot.

    I CAN tell you I believe your son walks with Jesus now and is so so incredibly happy! It still makes it hard for all those left behind, but perhaps it will help your grieving heart to think of your little boy in Heaven-what a beautiful place for such a beautiful little soul.

    I am praying for peace for you and your family.

  238. There are no words I can think of to ease your pain, as none have ever eased mine. My heart breaks for you and your family. Time doesn’t heal all wounds, but sometimes it takes some off the sting away.

  239. Dearest Mother and Father and family of Mattias,

    We mourn the loss of your beautiful son. We grieve. We hope in faith with you as you live out your days, being certain of a gracious reunion with your sweet boy,one day, in the presence of our Father and our Lord, Jesus.with us.

    May the God of all comfort, who is in all places, at all times, be with you.

    With care and love and continued prayers.

    Kathy and Danny Wright
    Homeschooling Mother and Father

  240. Thank you for sharing your terribly sad experience. I never would have thought to secure dressers. We have always bolted bookshelves to the wall but never dressers. My prayers will be with you for a long time.

  241. I cannot imagine your grief. My hearts breaks for your family and the loss of your precious son. I don’t know if I coul have pulled it together to write your post. It literally brought tears to my eyes. May your memories and the smiles from days past bring you comfort.

  242. Dear Dana. I cannot begin to describe how I am aching for you and your family. Noone should have to endure the loss of their baby in such a way. Your strength to tell your story likely helped prevent a simlar accident in my house. I have 22 month old twins and one big dresser I have not yet secured to the wall. Just yesterday I caught my son trying to climb it on the knobs. My husband frequently leaves the drawers open, inviting a quick resourseful toddler to try and scale it. Although I much prefer you didn’t have to go through your devastating loss, I am thankful you chose to share your heartbreaking story, because it was what I needed to go tie that thing to the wall. I am so, so sorry for little Tiggy. God bless you and your family.

  243. Dana..I heard about your story from Amy over at Raising Arrows and just want to leave my prayer for your family! My heart is breaking over the loss of your little guy! It made me go give my little guys a few extra hugs this morning! I pray for peace and comfort for your family this Christmas season. I know it will be the hardest you ever have, but I pray that somewhere there is joy too! I pray that your story may save another little child and another family from such heartache! But most of all I pray that the hands of God will wrap around you and hold you through this storm!
    Lots of love and prayers from strangers in Kentucky!

  244. Words cannot express my sympathy towards you and your family. I can only say, I’m sorry for your loss, and if you need someone who has walked this valley of a precious child’s death, I’m here for you. —You may not be ready for these words now, but when you are, know that you and the children did everything you could to help Tiggy. You could not have known that the sturdiest piece of furniture in the house would fail. Lean against GOD as hard as you can, and lean against each other. Talk of Tiggy amongst you, remember his antics, his love, his charm. Introduce the baby to his older brother Tiggy as the years go by. My prayers are with you, and every time I think of you, I will pray for you and the family in the years to come.

  245. So sorry for your loss. I have never read your blog, I just happened upon your story today and I have to thank you for sharing your loss. I was in a car accident this morning with my daughter, totalted the van, but we are both ok. I was upset about the vehicle but you put it into such good perspective. I have 5 children and I don’t even want to imagine how deep the sorrow and grief goes, you are in my prayers.

  246. Dear Dana, John and children.
    I am so very sorry for your loss. I am at loss for words of how to express my sadness. I am devasted and found out about little Mattias only yesterday (dec.20th).
    I remember him well and I know how proud you were of him.
    My staff and I pray for you and your family. We are all very sad for your loss.
    Please let me know anything I can do for you and your family.

    Always
    Dr. Niazi

  247. I really wish I could say something to comfort you during this time of loss, but no words can describe the sorrow you must be feeling. I’ll be keeping y’all in my prayers during this time! I found this poem and when I read this I instantly thought of this poem. May it bring you just a little bit of comfort during this time:

    Daddy please don’t look so sad,
    Momma please don’t cry,
    Cause I am in the arms of Jesus and
    He sings me lullabies.

    Please try not to question God,
    Don’t think He is unkind.
    Don’t think He sent me to you,
    And then He changed His mind.

    You see, I am a Special Child,
    And I am needed up above,
    I’m the special gift you gave Him,
    The product of your love.

    I’ll always be there with you,
    And watch the sky at night
    Find the brightest star that’s gleaming,
    That’s my halo’s brilliant light

    You’ll see me in the morning frost,
    That mists your windowpane.
    That’s me, in the summer showers,
    I’ll be dancing in the rain.

    When you feel a gentle breeze,
    From a gentle wind that blows,
    That’s me, I’ll be there,
    Planting a kiss on your nose.

    When you see a child playing,
    And your heart feels a little tug,
    That’s me, I’ll be there,

    Giving your heart a hug.
    So, daddy, please don’t look so sad,
    Mommy don’t you cry.
    I’m in the arms of Jesus,
    and He sings me lullabies.

    ~Author Unknown

    God Bless you guys! -HUGS- ♥
    ~Rachel Lynn~

  248. Dana, my sincere condolences on the loss of your beautiful child. May he rest in God’s peace and may Jesus, Mary & Joseph console you & your family as you mourn the passing of your beloved son. I will include you all in my prayers. God bless you & your family.

  249. Dana, I am so terribly sorry. I lost a little boy as well. The circumstances were different, but I know the instincts that you talk about and that you always ask what if. I wish you peace.

  250. My sister called minutes ago, she sent a link to your story. She knew we had split a big room in half for our toddlers, 3.5 years and 26 months, using two heavy, sturdy, solid wood dressers down the middle of the room.

    Our family has been through open heart surgery with our youngest and progressive scoliosis with our oldest, there is constant fear in the back of our minds as to what their futures hold..and we can’t do much about either medical problem. Because of Tiggy’s story we decided to build a half wall to seperate the room (we thought we had come up with a cost saving solution with the dressers) and we are securing the dressers to the wall tomorrow (and other heavy furniture).

    I am SO sorry for your pain and loss..thank you for sharing your story..*heart hugs*

  251. I’m sorry for your tremendous loss. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I pray Tiggy’s story touches the lives of many in a positive way.

  252. There is nothing I can say. I can tell you I’m sorry but it won’t make it right and most likely you are sick of hearing that. No parent should ever have to go through this. So I’ll tell you – thank you Dana. Thank you for sharing your pain, for being courageous and sharing your grief, for telling your story so that other parents are aware of potential dangers in their home and I want you to know I’ve shared your story on my site. You are wonderful and brave for doing so and all our hearts and prayers are with you. Lots of love!

  253. Feel terrible while reading all …. I am writing from Turkey, İstanbul..
    I have a child and I really can understand you …I am really upset …
    how can a word explain the feelings I do not know..

    p.s: sorry for my english..

    bst regards,
    esra

  254. There is nothing I can say. I can tell you I’m sorry but it won’t make it right and most likely you are sick of hearing that. No parent should ever have to go through this. So I’ll tell you – thank you Dana. Thank you for sharing your pain, for being courageous and sharing your grief, for telling your story so that other parents are aware of potential dangers in their home and I want you to know I’ve shared your story on my site. You are wonderful and brave for doing so and all our hearts and prayers are with you. Lots of love!

  255. My heart aches so greatly for you and while I have never lost a child. I know what it’s like to feel guilty for not being the mommy you want to be for your children when you are filled with grief and depression. I felt it daily bc of an adoption that went very bad for our family. I know it’s nothing like loosing a child, but it seemed like the end of the world for me so I can’t even imagine the depth of your loss. My heart is truly grieved and I will pray for you.

  256. Dana,
    I am terribly sorry for your loss, and know this is such a small, insignificant thing to say at a time like this. Our prayers are with you and your family. My heart cries for you.
    Nina

  257. I am so sorry to read about your loss. Words cannot express how much I feel for you and your family. I don’t even know you personally, I just found the link to your blog somewhere else, but I can’t imagine your sorrow. He was a beautiful little boy, and I will be praying for you and your husband and the rest of your lovely children in this time!

  258. The morning after reading this I, in tears, told my husband about your son. 🙁 We talked about how when our 2nd son was about the same age his dresser fell over on him, but praise God it was a cheap and light one from Wal-mart and his sister was in there to break the fall. You think we would have learned. We only bolted down one heavy book shelf after that. The year before he was choking on a small piece of french toast and we had to call 911 bc he was turning blue at the mouth and foaming. Praise God my husband was home because I was freaking out and of no use. He had not one but three small pieces in a row that had to be worked out! He said, “HON PLEASE TELL THIS DEAR FAMILY that I HAVE HEARD and I’m Sorry and i Have taken action tell her I went all through the house and bolted down EVERYTHING upstairs and downstairs that I could” I have not heard in vain, he said. We are praying continually for you. -Emma-Sara

  259. I have a son just a few months younger, so even being able to possibly imagine what it would be to lose him now is breaking my heart. I cannot imagine and I cannot fathom your hurt right now. I will speak to my husband today about the things we’ve been meaning to secure and I will do MUCH better today about not getting so upset about the stupid things I get upset about. As if my boys little mischief is such a hard burden or something. As if the priviledge of raising these boys is so stressful and hard. As if I’m so taxed because I get to spend my day with such funny, loving, silly creatures. I hate it when I get caught up in the day to day and forget what a precious gift my children are. Thank you for reminding me, though I so badly wish your hurt wasn’t what reminded me of this.

    Stay close to God – He is the ONLY way that will truly get you through this and as you can tell, there are many others out there thinking of you that pray you are comforted until you are reunited again.

  260. I am SO sorry for your loss. Your story breaks my heart 🙁 Thank you for this blog and I hope all Moms out there look over and over again to make sure everything is secure. I hope you and your family are doing well. Your son was beautiful, such a cutie. He is in heaven now – he will always be with you and your family. Take care

  261. My heart goes out to you and your family. Death is cruel and we can only look to God to right the wrongs we live through. I am so sorry for your loss.

  262. I just found this blog through BBC. I live in Omaha. I just wanted to say that your family is in my thoughts and prayers. I’m so very sorry for your loss of precious Tiggy. I have a 15 month old. Thank you for reminding me how important it is to strap our furniture to the walls. We haven’t done so yet, but we will. Again, I’m so sorry.

  263. I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain you are going through. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

  264. I will pray for your family – what a horrible tragedy. I am sure he is now safe and healthy in the arms of Christ, but that does not make your arms any less empty. I pray God fills you with peace.

  265. I am crying every night for your loss. I pray for peace for your family. It was a tragic accident, and it is making me double check every piece of furniture in my house. Keep being the awesome Mommy you are.

  266. Dear Dana,
    I do not know you, but ran across your post on the internet. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I will take your advice and look around my house today for possible hazards. You are a strong woman for telling your experience, and I’m sure it will make a difference in someone’s life. Take care of yourself, and may the Lord be with your spirit.

  267. Oh dear one…I can’t comprehend your loss and pain…lifting my intercession to our God who knows all things and calls you and yours His beloved ones. I will be thinking of you and praying for you in the days, weeks, and months to come.

  268. I wish that there were adequate words. I know a few weeks have passed, however, I just wanted to continue to send my love as I am sure each day holds its own sorrows in the midst of the joys. Praying that you continue to feel His precious arms around you, holding you SO tightly!

  269. Dear Dana,

    I am a stranger from down under in Australia, but I read your story today when I was directed to your site through a post on 31 Days of Encouragement at My Home Sweet Home.

    There are no words for a moment like the one you and your precious family have recently been through, especially when our paths have never crossed before.

    So I will simply tell you that I cried all through your story and have prayed and sent up my tears to our Lord God Almighty.

    May He bless each one of you with peace and time.
    Love in Christ,
    Annie
    xx

  270. Your story has moved me to tears, I am weeping with you my sister in Christ and your entire family will be in my prayers. May God grant your heart peace.

  271. By sheer chance I stumbled upon your post. I have tears streaming down my face and a lump in my throat, gripped by every word in your post. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Little Tiggy sounded like an amazing and beautiful little boy. Two of my 5 children are 2-yr old twins. I can’t begin to imagine… Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  272. I’m so sorry! Your family will be in my prayers. Goodness, how many times have we all (parents) done something (known & not known) that could have ended in tragedy? We pray it doesn’t but really assume it won’t. I WILL VOW to go through my home & put on all the safety straps on items that need to be there. I am a MOPS (mothers of pre-schoolers) leader of next year’s group and PROMISE to have one meeting on SAFETY, INCLUDING your story (if you give permission). Almost no one puts on those safety straps because they are inconvenient to screw into a stud. I also have many heavy items (antique dressers & desks) that are not strapped down. While you cannot save your son, you just might save someone else’s little boy or girl. It won’t take your pain away. My heart hurts for you!

    May God Bless you and your family and give you some peace.

  273. Hi, just wanted you to know that our family over here in MI are praying for you today and I am putting you on our prayer list. Believing He comforts all those who mourn.

    Relentlessly pursuing,

    Michelle

  274. My condolences to your family at this very sad and difficult time.

    I just read your story that my sister shared with me. It just broke my heart and gave me dejavou at the same time. My friend lost her son 5yrs ago while he was in 3rd grade. He too was playing with his siblings when their tv fell off the dressor and on him. It was a devastating time so I can only imagine your pain with a baby too. Cherish each moment and Love your family because we never now when a moment will come along to take it all away. And THANK YOU for having the strength to share with us so we may remember to take extra precautions too. God Bless you and know that we are all praying for peace and comfort for you and your family. RIP Tiggy.

  275. I am so sorry about your loss. You are all in my prayers! We don’t always understand why, but we must trust in our loving Jesus. “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding.” Proverbs 3:5. I sincerely hurt with you and may God give you peace and comfort beyond our explanation. Know that if Jesus is you LORD and Savior, that you will one day be united with your child for eternity in heaven. Just think of all the pain your little one is spared to be in the presence of Jesus and not here on Earth where there is pain and strife. I know you are left with the pain of missing him, but time will heal. Just close your eyes and see him with Jesus 🙂 With much love, Tina

  276. Just read your story (via Raising Olives) and my heart just broke for you. I’m so sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.

  277. I was led to this site through another blog, that I had never read.

    I am so sorry for your loss.

    This story hit home, and hard.
    My daughter, Amy, also a family of eight in 2009 lost her beautiful three year old boy, also while attending to her baby. The similarities are haunting.
    It is the hardest thing we have ever had to experience. It still hurts so badly.

    May God be with you and with your family. Knowing that your little boy is in Heaven makes life bearable.

    nancy

  278. I was somehow able to keep my composure as I read this. Then I watched the slideshow. As soon as my own little guy (19 mos.) came to me, I started crying. I feel so much hurt for you. I will be praying that you find comfort through God.

  279. I lost a baby 8 years ago from miscarriage. I know it’s not the same, and it’s really corny, but the sweet and tiny nurse as I was going into surgery told me words I needed to hear, “Jesus has a rocking chair.” Love you and your little one.

  280. Dear Dana
    My mother heart aches for you. I’m praying for you, each one of you. May God surround you with His peace and bless your broken hearts.
    I’m so very sorry.

  281. Dana, I came to this website because of the article in TOS magazine about the Preschool Toolbox. I was so inspired by that and when I stumbled upon all that’s happened, I sobbed and sobbed and grieved with you. But, I noticed that you had your priorities straight and were doing what you were supposed to in the day to day stuff. I believe with all my heart that God is so proud of you and that your little Tiggy is safely home. I’ll continue to pray for you and your family as you heal. You have completely inspired me to get my priorities straight and spend more time with my kids. God bless you.

    Kristen

  282. Oh, Dana. I am so, so sorry. I just found out. I haven’t been online in quite a while because when we lost my boys’ dad in October of last year I had a gut check. I knew I how precious life was and I didn’t want to miss a minute of my time with my family. So, forgive me for not visiting sooner. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers.

  283. Oh, my. Oh, my. I hope and pray your family is recovering and keeping the good memories.

    I hope you don’t regret your words for the rest of your life. There was nothing wrong with your words. This was a horrible accident. I know personally how different the shock from an accidental death is, because it “could have been prevented.” But only so with the ability to see the future. And we don’t have that.

    Love to you.

  284. My heart goes out to you. I cannot begin to imagine the pain you feel. Thank you for sharing your story, it helps remind us moms that things can wait and what is important is the time spent with our little ones. I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

  285. I have never met you & probably never will, but here on the other side of this great big country of ours, I wish I knew you so I could give you a hug and cry with you. Thank you for sharing your story, thank you for the reminder to hug our children and to love them….And to look with fresh eyes at the world around us. My heart breaks for you….Hugs….because it’s all I have to offer & my prayers.

  286. Your post has me a crying blubbering mess. I am the mama of 5 kids and the youngest 2 (two year old twins) like to climb things. I can’t even imagine the horror. I think I would just die if anything like that happened to any of my children. I pray for God’s peace that passes ALL human understanding to carry you through this time. There really are no words to say because I cannot even begin to imagine what you must be feeling.

    Blessings
    Honey

  287. I am so, so sorry for your loss. I’ve just recently become a mother, and I cannot imagine the pain. During my day to day, I sometimes leave my 14 month old unsupervised, just for minutes in the living room. I won’t now. So thank you for sharing.

  288. My heart is broken reading this… I don’t know what to say to you and your family, but I am so so sorry to hear about the loss of your sweet boy.

  289. I’m so sorry that this happened to your Tiggy. I found your blog after my two-year-old drowned three weeks ago. They did resuscitate him, but he died at the hospital on February 27th. I feel like I am going crazy. It is so awful, it feels like it can’t possibly be real. How can my precious boy actually be dead? I can’t wrap my mind around it. I think God is shielding me from some of the pain by letting me feel like it’s not true sometimes. The truth hurts way too much. I appreciate your posts. Weeble had a little car like Tiggy had. He loved for his brothers and sister to push him around in it. I never imagined that we would bury one of our babies. I hate doing things without him here. It feels like a betrayal. Yet, I have five other children who are living, and need to do things. We don’t have ducks, but we have chickens. Weeble called them “bok boks”. I miss him so much, my heart aches physically. Thank you for your posts, your family seems just lovely and I am so sorry for the loss of your little boy.

  290. I am so so very truly sorry. My baby died last summer, July 6th. She died during labor. Like you, I thought I was careful about everything. I stopped doing kick counts when contractions began because I was feeling her move with them, thought she’d be here soo soon and the contractions made it hard to count her movements anyway. I replay it in my head so very often, what I could have done to save her. Later I was told she slipped away in the hours I slept and then until that afternoon, the movements I felt weren’t her own sweet wiggling but the contractions just moving her. You can’t bubble wrap them…. but oh how you want to.

  291. Tears are streaming down my face as I read your story. At the same time my 3 boys 4, 3, and 11 months are playing all around me. I don’t have the words to express to you right now. But I can promise that this day I will hug each of them extra tight. That I will stop what I am doing to give kisses, to play hard, to live. This day we will honor Tiggy by living to our fullest and not taking for granted the love that surrounds us.
    Thank you for sharing you story. I pray that your testimony spreads far and wide, changing the hearts of those who read it and glorifying God as you walk in faith after the aftermath of this tragedy.

  292. I know we don’t know each other. But I found your page from “Like a Bubbling Brook” and have been reading through your story with tear filled eyes and utter heart break! You sweet Tiggy could have been any of our children. I cannot begin to imagine the loss and pain you feel and I pray that the Lord is blessing you with peace that can only come through His supernatural power within you – His Holy Spirit – the Comforter. My prayers are with you and your family. My encouragement to you is to rest fully in the hope of eternity, not in today. Because we know that this life is but a vapor. Your sweet precious son is with the Lord in perfect peace and joy. Live in the knowledge and joy that your separation from one another is but a blink of an eye in the grand scheme of all eternity. You will be with him again one day soon, your eyes will meet and you will know one another and your relationship will be perfected in Christ! Much love to you in Him, who took on flesh and knows our pain and our sorrows. And remember too, that God Our Father knows what it is like to suffer loss – He gave His Precious Holy Son on our behalf and was separated from Him as Christ bore our shame, our punishment so that we can be reconciled to God through repentance and faith in Him. Christ’s defeat of death is the proof that His atonement for sin was complete and our assurance that we too will be raised in our glorified bodies to forever worship together and fellowship in the presence of our Loving, Gracious God!!

  293. Oh my heart hurts for you and your family. Sometimes life is hard to understand. I had many tragedys in my life but not to lose a child.

    Please know someone cares and prays for you. Your blog touched my heart tonight.

  294. I’m praying for you now as I just read your story…I’m sooooo sorry for your loss! What a precious little boy! What a wonderful family you are!

  295. I just stumbled upon Tiggy’s story while roaming around homeschooling blogs. Had to shed tears. I’m remembering the time I unbuckled my toddler from her highchair, forgot and went to get something. Returned to see her still sitting there, but so close to leaning over and falling onto the cold, hard tile floor. I take way too much for granted. Thank you so much for sharing.

  296. We lost our only son in Feb. this year. It has been a living HELL! He was number seven and a beautiful perfect in every way baby boy! We have six girls and there was never a more loved and spoiled little boy in the world than our little Michael Joseph. A friend sent me a link to your blog. It is exactly as I’m feeling now. My Michael died in his sleep and I blame myself over and over again “if Only I had done this or that”! I know we can’t go back and I ask God to take that away the IF ONLY’s but I guess that is part of the grieving process. I will pray for you and I am so sorry about your son’s death.
    God Bless,
    Kelly

  297. My heart goes out to you as I weep for you and your family. I pray that God gives you the strength to stand up under this and that with each day you can find hope and healing. Of course these are easy words to type and preach when you are not going through such a horrific time. I know that loosing one of my own children would practically kill me. So I will weep with you as you weep as I shake with grief for your family. I will look around my home and question everything I once thought to be safe and make sure that I hug on and love on my babies every chance I get and will plug into my home and family more than plugging into this computer. Words to give you hope and strength fail me right now so instead I pray for just one good day for you. That God grants you one good day soon where memories bring you joy and God’s love for you and your family brings you comfort. God be with this family every step of the way and by your grace and comfort may they come together again not as whole as they once were but as a family that stands on your strength and relies on your wisdom for without you oh Lord and the knowledge that because of you death is not the final resting place we would have no hope. Be with this family oh Lord bring healing to them as they seek to understand and bring comfort Lord God. Bless them. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

  298. Oh, Dana, my heart aches for you and your family. Thank you for sharing this with us, and again on Money Saving Mom.

    I would like to reiterate your admonition to people to check again what they think is “safe” in their homes.

    I had a horrifying moment that somehow missed your experience by about half an inch… When my six year old used bungee cords to string between her armoire and shelves, then tried to climb them – and naturally they came crashing down, scraping the skin off the side of the baby, who was playing with her and standing… just … just…

    You are in my my prayers, for the love and comfort of the Father for you and your family.

  299. I’m sure you’ve heard this many, many times before, but I am SO sorry this has happened to you. And I appreciate you sharing your story, and the warnings. As I hold my 2 1/2 year old son, I can’t imagine what you are going through. I will be running around like a madwoman shortly, screwing everything to the wall that I possibly can. My kids share a room, and there is a dresser in there that, if all three drawers are opened, it will tip. I’ve put off mounting it to the wall for way too long. Thanks for the push (I found you via money saving mom). I also have this HEAVY, STURDY, OLD armoire in my dining room, that my husband has showed me many times will.not.tip. That will now be mounted to the wall. So even though I am sure you are hurting from your loss, I am sure you have helped many, many people by sharing your story. I will be praying for you and your family.

  300. I am so sorry for the loss of your little angel. It’s brought tears to my eyes just thinking about how hard it must have been for your family. I wish I had words which would make the pain and anger go away.

  301. Thank you, Lawanna and Vicky.

    And there are no words, really. Nothing can replace a little boy and all that he brought to our lives. But the kind words and thoughts do help remind us that we are not alone, even when it feels like it.

  302. May God be with you and give you and your family strength. I have a little one and will be checking our home today to make sure things are safe. I am so sorry for your loss. Love on the ones you have and know that Tiggy will be with you again someday.

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  304. Your words sound so much like my own. On September 10th,2009 my twin 7 year old sons went outside to play. I called them in for dinner and my youngest twin Zachary died while running of a brain anuerysm. He made it Home, to his heavenly home. I met God that night on the floor at the hospital and the Holy Spirit has never left me. You words about not wanting to be in the way, staying calm so they take care of your baby are my very own words. I never thought that if one of my 4 children died that I would be calm. The only way I can explain it is the Holy Spirit has assured me that I will be with my baby again. Just recently I realized that Zachary was not the one who died that day, Zachary graduated from what we call life. I was the one who died. I died to self and devote my life to serving God. For those who are like I was, never really had a personal realationship with our Lord and Savior, let Him call one of your children home and you will get to know Him real fast. I am not alone, I always have HIM. Thank you for your post

  305. This hurts my heart. We have a few pieces of old furniture just as was described. I am so sorry and will be praying for you and your family. So sorry. My boy and I will keep you in our bedtime prayers and when we say what we are thankful for we will thank God forgiving you the strength you need to live.

  306. I’m so sorry. My heart breaks for you and your family. You sound like an amazing woman and your little one an amazing boy.

  307. Thank you for the eyes to see more than I had seen before. Seeing with them is all I can do to honor your strength to share this heartbreak as well as honoring the life of your son Tiggy. I, my husband and my one year old son and daughter thank you!

  308. I can’t tell you how sorry I am. Tears are streaming down my face. I can’t even imagine all the what-ifs that must go through your mind over and over. Who could have ever anticipated such a thing. It’s so unfair. I wish there was a way that a mother could anticipate every potential hazard and take appropriate precautions, but of course that’s impossible. But that bubble wrap is sounding really good right about now.

  309. i dont know how i stumbled upon your story but i cannot stop crying… i am so sorry that you and your family have gone through this. the whole time reading, i pictured my youngest son (now 18 months) and i can honestly say i will be taking another look at my child proofing and will be sharing your story with everyone that i know. i wish i could hug you if it would take your pain away. thank you truely for sharing your family’s story with me.

  310. I found this from a post on Facebook sharing your money story. My heart just breaks for you. I am the mother of 5 and my youngest, he’s 4 now, is one that gets into everything. He climbs on stuff all the time. So scary to think of how easy it could happen. We have our entertainment center secured to the wall, but not the dresser that the bedroom TV is sitting on. I think I’ll have to do that now. I am so very very sorry for your family’s loss. I can’t imagine your pain. I only hope that the loss of your little boy will help others prevent such a loss and will bless others in the many ways that I see you have been striving for. God bless you dear.

  311. Excruciating to read, but thank you for warning others of the dangers of little ones and furniture. God bless you! I am so sorry for your terrible loss.

  312. Thank you for sharing your story. We had a bookcase that we bolted to the wall in the baby’s room, and then we moved it. It’s been niggling at me, at the back of my mind, that we really shouldn’t leave it in the hall like that. After reading your story we moved it, and I realized how incredibly heavy and dangerous it was. It even fell over while we were moving it and it broke. I was actually happy that it broke that way. It felt safer.

    All the books are now relocated to a bookcase that is bolted to the wall.

    I’m just writing to say thank you for sharing your story. You could have kept your heartbreak to yourself, but I think by telling the world, you may have helped protect other babies. I wanted to acknowledge the gift of knowledge that you have given us. We are grateful.

    Sincerely yours,
    Jackson’s mom

  313. Dana,
    I came to you thru moneysavingmom. My heart just aches for you. I stopped reading your story twice, because it hurt so much to see your anguish, but I came back each time and finally finished. I can see the love you have for your children in all your posts and I am so sorry you lost your precious son. Know that he went to the Lord and he is not alone.

  314. I am sobbing so hard it’s hard to type. We almost lost our 4 year old, Mickey, through a freak accident at home on May 4th and I am so thankful every day that we didn’t. I am so terribly, terribly sorry for your loss and I feel so awfully guilty that our miracle was granted, that LifeFlight flew for us, that Doerenbecher’s was able to bring him back to us whole.

    I hope that you have been granted some peace by God and please know that I will be praying for you.

  315. Dana,
    Thank you for sharing your story. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. I struggled to hold back tears long enough to read the whole post. I can’t imagine what you are going through.

    This is such an important thing, that gets overlooked so often.

    Just last week my 11-month-old son pulled a portable fireplace (not in use) over on himself. Thank God I was right there and he was okay, but it was still extremely scary. I immediately took his clothes and started checking his legs and ribs. He was scared, but uninjured. He’s just learning to walk and pulling himself up on anything he can. He’s pulled himself up on that before without a problem, but somehow it was unsteady that day.

    May you find comfort in knowing that he is in God’s hands; the best place he could be and will never feel pain or suffering ever again.

    God Bless,
    -Stacy

  316. Dana,

    My sister sent me to this link and how very grateful that i am she did. I am not sure if you will get this message, but nonetheless..My son is 2 yrs old. On 6/27 we were sitting down to watch tv, my husband and my 11 yr. old daughter. My son was in his room playing watching tv as he does often. We were about 15 minutes into the show we were watching when we heard this loud crash that will remain in my head forever or so it seems. We walk in his bedroom to see the tv and his dresser on top of him. I almost couldnt even walk in the room. I expected the absolute worse. My husband scooped him off the floor and brought him into the dining room for better light. Looked over him and did not seem to be too hurt. We then discovered a huge bruise and scraps on his face by his right eye and temple of his head. It was pretty significant and very scary…I was shaking so bad i couldnt even think. He kept wanting to fall asleep.We rushed him to the emergency room where they took all precautions, cat scan and so forth. I wish your story had the happy ending that I had, only by the grace of God was my son ok…he eye was swollen shut for several days and he had significant bruising. I was very blessed. I said all that to say thank you. Thank you for having the courage to tell your story. Thank you for remaining in the faith as you have. My story could have easily ended up like yours, my son is a miracle baby from the begininng to present day…there is so much more to my story that i wish i could share with you. But I pray that you find peace and continued strength in life. I too urge parents to check your homes, if you feel it is unsafe take action, i knew that dresser wasnt safe and failed to take action. I have the what if run through my head a million times sitting in that hospital room. We cant put them in a bubble, although i have thought about it several times.

    Thank you again for your story. I know that God is holding your child now and you will hold him again one day.

    Lindsay C.

  317. Dana,

    You and your family are on my heart tonight as I read your story. I have two precious daughters (4 & 6) and I just want to go and wake them both and squeeze them tight after reading your tragic story. Loss is never easy to bear, no matter what the circumstances, and I am comforted that you know GOD and can experience HIS LOVE to hold and sustain you and your precious family during this unbelievable loss.

    Thank you for your courage to share your story and to find ways to honor your precious son’s memory.

    God love you,
    Karen

  318. Dear Dana, I am so sorry for the loss of your precious son. You have my heartfelt sympathy. I know the love a mother has for her son. I, too am a bereaved mother. The pain is unbearable, and somedays I don’t even want to get out of bed even though I never sleep. Today, my son has been gone 18 months and 13 days. I will never believe it gets better with time as alot of folks like to tell me. I miss him more each day. My son was 34 years old. He lived next door to me and his daddy. His name is Marty. He was told by a dr he needed an aortic valve replacement. He had never had any symptoms and was healthy and beautiful. Marty was proactive in doing this even while I questioned it. A cardiovascular surgeon perfomed the surgery on January 6th 2010. Marty died January 19th, 2010. He was in a coma following the surgery. I have so many questions with no answers and absolutely no compassion from the dr or hospital where the surgery occurred. The dr no longer practices in NC – but is in Alabama. I hope anyone who is told by a dr they need surgery and spends time with the patient telling them that it is routine and “textbook” walks away and looks for help somewhere else. The dr that did this continues to practice and I am sure enjoys life, where our life is upside down and will be for the rest of our days. Its a miserable way to have to live, but more than the pain I and my husband experience each day. The real pain is knowing Marty is not walking this earth enjoying his life and the two little girls he left behind.

  319. Tears falling from my eyes. My heart aches for you and little Tiggy. I will, I will look at all of my things in my house. I KNOW I have tall bookshelves that have been moved and not anchored to wall. I have a young 4 year old and 20 month old. I will look, Dana. My heart aches, oh how it aches, for you.

  320. God Bless you and your precious children. I am so very very sorry about your Tiggy. What a precious boy and what a precious family you have.

    may God give you the strength to carry on.

  321. I stumbled upon this site because I am wrestling with the decision that I made sending my daughter back to school. Today was a terrible day and she felt awful. Tonight your story shouted to my heart. I pray for you and your family.

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  325. I sit here with tears streaming down my face, I am so sorry for your loss, the heartache you must feel, the what ifs that you probably thought. I am so sorry. My God wrap his arms around all of you.

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  333. I read your post today not sure of what really to say. I am so sorry. I have never read your blog before today but I must have shown it by the grace of GOD. The post has sat in my head all day long.
    I went upstairs to put my 2 year old to bed only to find his large changing table flipped over. He must have done it when he was playing earlier in the day. (this was never the piece in his room I was worried about him flipping over) I told my husband about this post. He went and got stuff to secure the room.
    Thank you for sharing your story. I may have not thought to secure the room.
    I hope that your heart find comfort one day.. I am so sorry…

  334. I came across your blog today, as we are thinking of moving to the country for similar reasons you quoted and we’re homeschooling and maybe I just needed some encouragement. I really appreciated reading about your family and insights.
    And then I read about your little Tiggy. I cannot even begin to fathom the pain. I cried and cried, I still am. I just wanted to say how sorry I am, the ultimate fear of a parent that you had to go through and will always go through. For his brothers and sisters who will live without his daily presence. I am so sorry.
    We recently lost our little boy Noah @ 17 weeks gestation and that was so immensely painful and still is. So to even comprehend your pain a tiny little bit just makes the tears flow. Because while loosing our son was excruciating, it does not even begin to compare to the enormity of you loosing your little Tiggy. I’m right on the other side of the Pacific Ocean in New Zealand, but we serve the same God and I am thankful for your words, sharing your son’s life with us and putting your all into your children. I’ll be following this blog for certain. Thank you.

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