In memory of our beloved son

I want to take a moment to thank all of you. Our family has been truly overwhelmed by the love and kindness of our community. From the ambulance service sending flowers, the nurse who came to the viewing, the anesthesiologist telling us he saw his own children there on the operating table and total strangers who came across a link on the internet who felt moved to comment, pray and offer support.

We’ve been asked over and over what we need, but we truly are blessed to not have any physical needs. My dad and brother fixed the plumbing. A man from our church came out and fixed the chimney. The funeral home donated its services. The newspaper donated the space in the paper. My husband’s work took care of the fact he left without contacting a supervisor and is giving him the time he needs to be home during this time.

I cannot begin to recount the kindnesses shown us. For those of you who feel moved to give, please consider donating to Tiny Hands International, a ministry working in Asia to rescue children from poverty and sex-trafficking. It would mean a great deal to us if some of the overflowing generosity we have been shown could benefit someone who has true physical needs.

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  1. Dana, my heart and love and hugs go out to you. I have no words to express how I feel. Your family is beautiful and this slidshow is wonderful. I pray you will alll find comfort through one another and your extended family. God bless you.

  2. What can I say? The slideshow is beautiful. The music is perfect. We all still grieve for you and your family, but as you know he is in peace waiting for you. Bless you for your strength and your kindess to care so much for all of us. If trying times test our charcter, you have passed with flying colors.
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  3. Dana,

    I found you through Kendra. My heart is so sad for you and your family. You are in our prayers. Praying for comfort, strength, and hope.

    In Him,

  4. Dana,

    my friend Louise posted about you on Monday and gave me your blog website. My heart aches for you all. My prayer is that you continue to rely on Him who is the source of our strength. May He wrap you in His arms of Love and gently guide you through this difficult time. My family will be praying for you and yours.

    In Christ Jesus,

  5. dana…
    my heart breaks for you. i had a friend whose kindergardener was killed by a chest of drawers… it’s just such a random tragedy, but i believe that nothing is random to God… may He continue to bathe you in His presence and may His peace and love hold you close in the days and weeks ahead. what a brave soul you are… telling his story. press on, sweet sister. may God bless and keep you all.
    xxoo in Christ
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  6. Dana and John and family,
    This is a beautiful video. Beautiful because it shows not only the joy of little Mattias, but the family love he was surrounded with each day. The words and the music you chose are a testimony to each person who views it. Thank you for posting it and sharing your heart with us.
    I am praying for all of you and wish I could be there this morning to give each one of you a hug.

  7. I am so sorry for your incredible loss. I have also lost a child. We must look to the day we will be reunited. Think of all the pain and suffering they will not experience on this earth. They are with our Lord and Savior. May God surround you with His love, peace and strength at this time. I pray you see our Lord in every detail allowing you to feel and know His prescence. My heart just breaks for you. Will be praying for you and your family.

  8. what a beautiful little boy!!! Thank you for sharing with us. As a mom my heart is hurting so much for you. When my husband comes home today we’ll be checking our furniture.

  9. Dana and Family – I’ve been praying for your family all week. Despite the fact, we have never met we are bonded together through the family of Christ and we can share in His sufferings. I cannot fathom the pain you are going through right now, but what reassurance to know that we are only saying “See you soon” and not “Goodbye forever.” I know that must bring comfort to your heart right now. I will continue to pray for you in the difficult weeks and months ahead, as you adjust to a new normal in your family.

    Canyon Country, CA

  10. Dear Dana, My heart is breaking as I read of your loss this morning. I am holding my children close. I am listening to your words and looking around my home. Thank you for sharing the video of your sweet boy.
    Praying for God love, peace and strength to surround you and your children.

  11. Dear Dana and Family,

    I saw a post about you on the internet and am so sorry to hear of your loss. This was a beautiful video. I am praying for you and your family. I am a mother of 6 and cannot imagine what you are feeling. I am praying God surrounds you today and the days to come with His sustainable grace, love, peace, strength and comfort.

    In Christ Jesus,

  12. Dana, On Oct. 23 we lost one of our grandsons to an accident. He would have been 13 tomorrow. I just want you to know that we serve a MIGHTY GOD! I have walked thru the darkness with my daughter and have seen first hand the sorrow of a mother’s heart grieving for a child. Please know, the accident that took your son’s life was no surprise to our Lord. The day that he went to be with our Lord was ordained and written in His book.I am so sorry that you have the burden of the ‘what ifs’ Please don’t allow the enemy to whisper that in your ear my friend. For the Lord will strengthen you and use your testimony for His Kingdom! I am lifting you up in my prayers, not only for God’s strength and courage but also for eyes to see Him in EVERYTHING! Even in death. For I know that the Lord is close to the brokenhearted and if you have your ‘God eyes’ on you will see His beauty everywhere and in everything. I pray for a hedge of protection over your family and your marriage. That this time will allow you all to gather together under His wings and take refuge there! Jeremiah 33:3 ” Call unto me, and I will answer thee and show thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.” Please know that there are many things that we do not understand but out Lord Jesus Christ does and His knowledge will be revealed to us one day. God bless you and keep you friend, His Servant, Tammy Wheat

  13. I heard about you through two of my FB friends just today. One of those friends is Marsha Drews, who lost her sweet son over 2 years ago, I feel those same pains today that I felt when I heard Christian had gone “home.” Praying God’s peace, comfort and strength for you and your family.

  14. What beautiful eyes Tiggy had, what a beautiful smile. May the Peace that passes all understanding fill you right now as you go through this time. Although it’s a role you would have never chosen for yourself, you have reminded all of us Moms to hug our kiddos a little bit tighter today and not get so worked up about stuff like “oatmeal” flung everywhere. Hugs to you.
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  15. prayers for your family…you and you husband, your older children, your extended family. this is a beautiful tribute. praise God for the life of your son…

  16. I am so incredibly sorry. I wish I could hold your hand and make you cups of tea. I know that you will find this impossible to believe right now, but it will get better, but it will take time. You will remember him with smiles and not just tears.

  17. I am so sorry for your lost. I know how painful and hard this can be. We lost my nephew because a tv fell on him.

    I will pray daily for God’s love and faithfulness and strength to carry you and your husband and family through this difficult time.

    Oh God, please pour out your comfort and peace upon this family.
    In His name

  18. I am so, so sorry. I was just thinking this morning about how much childproofing we need to do, my 19 month old started crawling this week and is climbing on everything. In memory of your precious, beautiful little boy I plan on doing that today!

    Again, I am so sorry. Know there are family member in the Lord crying with your right now, I have tears running down my face.

    Emily Petersen

  19. The family of God is holding you up in prayer. It is awe-inspiring to see this extended family pray for you in these common ideas: peace that passes all understanding, blessings for you, gratitude for your son, tenderness from Christ. I will join in these prayers for your family. I am so sorry for your great loss and heartbreak.

  20. Dearest family of Tiggy…may you know the peace that passes all understanding. I pray especially for Tiggy’s siblings that they may have comfort and understanding. I pray for you all, that you will not be haunted by memories of this horrific accident. Mostly, I pray your hearts in time know healing and that until that time the simple joys of life find you when you need them most.

  21. Oh, Dana, that’s a beautiful video. Keep betting on Jesus, He truly is real hope for real people going through real life. Your family’s faith and love come through in your writings and pictures. It’s no surprise that your community has embraced and blessed you all so much. Please know that your story has touched many, many people so deeply. We’re all loving on our kids a little more reminded of how fragile life is. Sending hugs and prayers your way from Kentucky.
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  22. My heart is so heavy for you. I sit here crying again (read what happened last night).

    We lost our fourth child for almost an hour when he was two and I thought for certain he had drowned in our pond or been kidnapped. The agony I felt during that time was suffocating. I cannot imagine not waking up from that nightmare.

    You have imprinted in my mind and heart and I will be praying for you for a long time. I am so sorry!! You are loved from a far!!
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  23. Found this news through a tweet. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain you’re going through, but I know our Lord will meet you where you are, in the depths of the pain and questions with out immediate answers. We also support Tiny Hands, and was brought to tears when I saw that was a ministry you are passionate about. The fact you are thinking of others in this time speaks to your foundation.

    Praying for you…
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  24. Though my heart breaks for you and your family. In my mind I want the perfect words to come. But, there are no words, no actions that will take away the pain. Only time will heal with Gods help. I myself have never lost a child but I have lost plenty in the past few years. A mother, grandmother, grandfather, fatherinlaw….a 1 year old cousin and a 5 year old cousin. The pain doesn’t go away we learn to handle it in different ways and for some there is a testimony. My cousin who lost 2 children has been able to handle it by the Grace of God. He has made her stronger and able to share her story with others. My blessing to you and your family for the holidays and days to come. Prayers will be with you for a long time for you have taken a place in my heart. I have seen your childrens faces as well as yours and your husbands. In my soul you are imbedded multitudes of prayers.
    The Hodges

  25. What a beautiful boy. I am so very sorry for your tragic loss–he was just a few months older than my youngest…I can’t begin to imagine your pain. I have been praying for your family, especially your other children, and am glad that you are surrounded by such support. I started crying again when I heard that song you have playing in the video–wow. What a testimony to your faith. You inspire me. May Jesus continue to be the source of your strength. Continued prayers to all of you!
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  26. Hugs & deepest heartfelt sympathies. No one should have to bury their child, especially one at such a young age whose life had just begun. My own son’s nickname is Tigger, and it resonated in my head as your words played out an awful story that I wished was not true, knowing the end already.
    I hope memories of him continue to hug your heart on the hard days and that strength of family & friends help you through it together. His life is not the end.

  27. I just wanted to say thank you for sharing this video of your beautiful boy. I can’t express in words how much you have touched my heart. I know that may not make sense…..but….I just wanted to let you know that you and your family are in my prayers. My the Lord bless you and keep you. <3

  28. My kids and I stopped everything and prayed especially for you and the other children. There are just no words…please know that we will continue to lift you up.

    Please tell your other children…my kids are lifting them up in prayer as well.

    Blessings to you! You are loved!!!

  29. My heart and soul ache for you and your family. I’m so sorry for this tragic loss you are suffering and pray for you to find peace. I know w/out a doubt he is watching down on your family and you WILL meet again! Let his memory live on through your precious family.
    Lots of hugs and prayers from Utah!

  30. Your slideshow was beautiful! I loved the one of him with the cake dome thingy on his head. lol My daughter loves sitting in all sorts of things too. It doesn’t matter what it is, flower pots, buckets, clothes baskets, etc. The more they have to wedge themselves in there the better. Silly kids!

    I have been thinking about how wonderful your other kids are. They are all such heros! Please let them know we think so. They might feel like they failed but they did not!! You don’t have to save a life to be a hero, you just have to be willing to try. Without thinking about it they jumped to rescue him. They might not have saved his life in the long term but I bet they did in the short term. You and your husband were able to say goodbye and comfort him. You were all able to let him know how much you loved him because they were there to help. They did such a wonderful job and they should be so proud of themselves. I am so grateful for your wonderful kids. We are praying for them and all of you!

  31. I wish I had the words to heal the hearts of your family and to make everything ok again.
    Every time I look at my son today I think of how immensely blessed I am to have him, I am so sorry for your loss.
    I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers and I pray that you will see the impact your son had on this world and on all the lives he touched.

    Much Love.

  32. Dear Mrs.,
    PLease read below letter.
    My prays for your little boy.


    And in His Name, be He glorified!

    And there is nothing but it glorifies Him with praise.

    My Dear Brother of the Hereafter, Hafiz Halid Efendi!

    In the, Name of God, the Merciful, the Compassionate.

    And give good news to the patient, Those who when afflicted with calamity say: To God do we belong and to Him is our return.

    My brother, your child’s death saddened me. But, the command is God’s, contentment with the Divine decree and submission to Divine Determining, is a mark of Islam. May Almighty God grant you all patience. And may He make the deceased a supporter and intercessor for you in the Hereafter. I shall explain Five Points which are truly good news and real consolation for you and pious believers like you:


    The meaning of the phrase, immortal youths in the All-Wise Qur’an is this: with this phrase, the verse indicates and gives the good news that the children of believers who die before reaching maturity will remain perpetually as eternal, lovable children in a form worthy of Paradise; that they will be an everlasting means of happiness in the embrace of their fathers and mothers who go to Paradise; that they will be the means for ensuring for their parents the sweetest of pleasures like loving and caressing children; that all pleasurable things will be found in Paradise; that the statements of those who say that since Paradise is not the place for reproduction, there will be no loving and carressing of children are not correct; and that gaining millions of years of pure, painfree loving and caressing of eternal children in place of a short time like ten years of loving children mixed with sorrows in this world is a great source of happiness for believers.


    One time, a man was in prison. They sent one of his lovable children to him. The unhappy prisoner suffered both his own sorrows, and since he could not make the child comfortable, he was grieved also at his hardship. Then the compassionate judge sent a man to him with a message which said: “For sure this child is yours, but he is my subject and of my people. I shall take him and look after him in a fine palace.” The man wept in anguish. He said: “I won’t give you my child who is my solace!” His friends said to him: “Your grief is meaningless. If you pity the child, he will go to a spacious and happy palace in place of this dirty, stinking, distressing dungeon. If you are grieved for yourself and are seeking your own benefits, if your child remains here, you will suffer much distress and pain at the child’s difficulties in addition to your single dubious, temporary benefit. If he goes there, there will be a thousand advantages for you, for it will be cause of attracting the king’s mercy and will be like an intercessor for you. The king will want to make you meet with him. For sure, he will not send him to the prison so that you can see him; he will release you from the prison, summon you to the palace, and allow you to meet with the child there. On condition that you have confidence in the king and you obey him….”

    My dear brother, like this comparison, you must think as follows, like other believers when their children die: the child was innocent, and his Creator is All-Compassionate and All-Generous. He has taken him to His most perfect grace and mercy in place of my deficient up-bringing and compassion. He has released him from the grievous, calamitous, difficult prison of this world and sent him to the gardens of Paradise. How happy for the child! If he had stayed in this world, who knows what form he would have taken. Therefore, I do not pity him, I know him to be fortunate. There remains the benefits for myself, and I don’t pity myself for those, and I do not grieve and be sorrowful. For if he had remained in the world, he would have secured ten years of a child’s temporary love mixed with pains. If he had been righteous and if he had been capable in the matters of the world, perhaps he would have helped me. But with his death, he has become like an intercessor who is the means to ten million years of a child’s love in eternal Paradise and to everlasting happiness. Most certainly, one who loses some dubious, immediate benefit and gains a thousand certain, postponed benefits does not display grief and sorrow, he does not cry out in despair.


    The child who dies was the creature, possession, servant, and together with all his members, the artefact of a Most Compassionate Creator, and belonging to Him was a friend of his parents whom had been given to their supervision temporarily. He made the father and mother servants to the child. In return for those services of their’s, He gave them pleasurable compassion as an immediate wage. Now, if, as the requirement of mercy and wisdom, that All-Compassionate Creator, Who owns nine hundred and ninety-nine shares out of a thousand of the child, takes the child from you and puts an end to your service, to cry out in grief and despair due to that apparent single share in the face of the true owner of the thousand shares in a manner that recalls complaint, does not befit a believer; it befits rather the people of neglect and misguidance.


    If the world had been eternal, and man was to have remained in it eternally, and separation had been eternal, grievous sorrow and despairing woe would have had some meaning. But since this world is a guesthouse, wherever the dead child has gone, you, and we too, shall go there. Moreover, this death is not particular to him, it is a general highway. And, since separation is not for ever, in the future, both in the Intermediate Realm and in the Hereafter he will be met with. One must say, the command is God’s. He gave him and He Look him away. One must say, “All praise be to God for every situation,” and offer thanks in patience.


    Compassion, one of the most subtle, beautiful, agreeable, and sweet manifestations of Divine mercy is a luminous elixir. It is much sharper than passionate love. It swiftly becomes the means of union with Almighty God. Just as metaphorical love and worldly love are transformed into true love with the greatest difficulty, and find Almighty God, so too compassion binds the heart to Almighty God in a shorter, purer fashion – and without difficulty. Both father and mother love their child more than all the world. When their child is taken from them, if they are fortunate and if they are true believers, its turns their faces from the world and finds the True Bestower of Bounties. It says: “Since the world is transitory, it is not worthy of the heart’s attachment.” Wherever the child has gone an attachment forms with that place, and gains for a person great spiritual rank.

    The people of neglect and misguidance are deprived of the happiness and good news of these Five Points. You can see from the following how grievous their situation is: they see their only child in the throes of death and due to their imagining the world to be eternal and as a result of their heedlessness and misguidance, they think death is non-existence and eternal separation. They think of him in the earth of his grave in place of his soft bed, and due to their heedless or misguidance, they do not think of the Paradise of mercy and heaven of bounty of the Most Compassionate of the Compassionate; you can compare just what despairing sorrow and grief they suffer. Whereas belief and Islam say to the believer: his All-Compassionate Creator will take this child of yours who is in the throes of death from this dirty world and take him to Paradise. He will make him both an intercessor for you, and an eternal child. Separation is temporary, do not worry.

    Say, the command is God’s. To God do we belong and to Him shall we return,

    and bear it patiently.

    The Enduring One, He is the Enduring Oner

    Said Nursi

  33. I am so very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what your family is going through. We are praying for you. (I read about your story on a friend’s blog and I wanted to let you know that we purchased a new bookshelf for our 22 month old girls’ playroom and hadn’t mounted it to the wall yet because we weren’t sure where we wanted it to remain permanently. But after reading your story, it will be mounted within the next couple of hours. They WILL NOT go in there until it’s done.) Praying…

  34. I came across your blog just today and am so saddened by your story. Praying for you and your whole family that God will bring you the peace and comfort only He can provide.

  35. Dana, I am so deeply sorry for your family’s loss. What a beautiful ray of sunshine your lovely boy was. God bless all of you in these most difficult of days.

  36. Dana, just wanted you and your family to know that I made a donation to Tiny Hands in memory of Tiggy. Thank you for thinking of others during your time of need. Prayers going up for you all here in Ohio.

  37. Dana,

    I don’t know you. I found this blog via a facebook link about the tragic loss of your precious son and I’ve been following and praying ever since. Tiggy was born on my 41st birthday. I will never celebrate that day again with saying a prayer for y’all and remembering him. May our Father comfort you in your grief. What words I would offer are inadequate at best but know that you are loved even by strangers on the internet and you are being held in prayer all over the world right now. Grace, healing and peace in your pain be yours and may Tiggy’s memory be eternal.
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  38. Dana. A beautiful video memorial to your Tiggy. Through tears I watched and thought of each and every precious moment you have ahred with the world. God is with you especially on this day. He will always beyour comfort and shelter. Much love and prayers for you and your family, my dear.

  39. Dana and family, my heart broke when I read your blog entry yesterday. My 8 month old little boy is turning into a very active climber, and we are now in the process of reevaluating our furniture situation. God hold you all right now, I just don’t know what to say. I’m a mom, too, and if it hurts this much to even read this, I can’t begin to imagine your pain. I’ve read your blog for a while, and I just want to add my prayers to the waterfall you’re receiving. And will gladly donate in little Tiggy’s honor to Tiny Hands International.

  40. I’ll Lend You A Child
    by Edgar Guest

    “I’ll lend you for a little time a child of mine,” He said.
    For you to love – while he lives
    And mourn for when he’s dead.

    It may be six or seven years
    Or twenty-two or three,
    But will you, till I call him back,
    Take care or him for Me?

    He’ll bring his smiles to gladden you,
    And should this stay be brief
    You’ll have his lovely memories as solace for your grief.

    I cannot promise he will stay,
    Since all from earth return,
    But there are lessons taught down there
    I want this child to learn.

    I’ve looked this world over
    In search for teachers true,
    And from the throngs that crowd
    Life’s lanes, I have selected you.

    Now will you give him all your love,
    Nor count the labor vain,
    Nor hate Me when I come to call to
    Take him back again?”

    I fancied that I heard then say,
    “Dear Lord, Thy will be done,
    For all the joy Thy child shall bring,

    The risk of grief we’ll run.
    We’ll shelter him with tenderness,
    We’ll love him while we may,
    And for the happiness we’ve known
    Forever grateful stay.

    But should the angels call for him
    Much sooner than we’ve planned,
    We’ll brave the bitter grief that come
    And try to understand.”

  41. So very sad – so heart wrenching and impossible to grasp, the loss of such a tender life. Keeping you and yours in prayer. I know only God can comfort your hearts, so i am trusting He will.

  42. I have been praying for your family since I heard about your son on Monday. My heart goes out to all of you, but I know that you will be perfectly consoled by our great God and heavenly Father. May you see His goodness and lovingkindness all through the day and all through the night.

    “I would have lost heart, unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; wait, I say, on the Lord!” ~Psalm 27:13,14
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  43. Dana~ the video was just beautiful. I’m sure the service was as well. What a precious little boy. I just cannot even fathom what your family is going through right now. Reading your story makes me want to wrap my whole entire house with bubble wrap – but, even then, you just never know.

    I’m missing my best friend who passed away in March. I cannot imagine losing my son. I’m holding him closer tonight, in memory of your sweet little boy.

    You’re in my thoughts and prayers!
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  44. As I read your story I feel this overwhelming sense of heartbreak and complete sorrow, I hardly ever pray but I will pray for you. I hope that one day you can see your little boy again.

  45. Dana,
    Our hearts are breaking for you and your precious family. I have no words. And I only came to your blog cause a friend mentioned the accident on FB. I just wanted you to know we are praying for your sweet family. My middle girl (6) cannot stop crying. She watched the video with me, and when I told her your precious boy was gone, she burst into tears. We are all crying tears for you.

  46. God keep you and console you. Mattias now rests in the bosom of the Trinity, there to sing his canticle of love to God for eternity. You will join him one day where “every tear shall be wiped away.”

  47. How I wish I could reach my arms from my corner of Iowa to find you. I … am … so … sorry. I can’t imagine the depth of your pain in losing a child. I’m praying for you tonight, that you would know that God is very, very close. That you would FEEL the closeness of the God who bottles up every tear that falls.

  48. My heart aches for you, your husband, and your children. My youngest son (#5 as well) is only a week younger than your sweet Mattias. I will pray for your family during this tremendous heartache. May our Lord give you comfort during this time.

  49. Dana,

    I can’t even begin to tell you how sorry I am for you and your family. As a mother of 4, I cried my eyes out for you. I know it is such a little thing to say……..but your story will forever make me feel differently about my childrens’ mischief. I will check my house as you have recommended, and I will appreciate the little things much more than I ever have. God Bless you……… are all in my prayers.

  50. Dana and family, I did not know of you until a few days ago when Spunky Homeschool Mom posted about your son, but I have been unable to get you out of my mind since then. I have cried numerous times for your loss I cannot comprehend thankfully and can barely begin to imagine, and my 13-year-old daughter was also been struck by it too, and we have prayed for your family. Tiggy was a beautiful little boy and had a wonderful life it is obvious, even if it was so much shorter than you intended. The song “Praise You In This Storm” was so perfect and has gotten me through some difficult times. We wish for you peace. We know Mattias already has it and is waiting for you in a better place. God bless you and keep you.
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  51. Mrs. Hanley, I am at a loss of words, the right words. I am so very sorry for your loss of your beautiful baby boy. Thank you for finding the God given strength to share what happened and life of your son. May God continue to wrap you and your family in His arms right now and the days to come. I have children of my own and now I am holding them tighter and double checking everything in our house. May God bless you and keep you for now and always.

  52. My heart goes out to you and your family! I shed many tears watching this video and can’t even begin to imagine what you are going through. He was a beautiful little boy! Those eyes and smile were so sweet! I will be praying for the Lord’s comfort for you and your family.

  53. I am one of the strangers who saw a link & just had to see what the title meant. I thought this must have happened months, perhaps years ago, then I read the date & I felt like I’d been hit with a bag of bricks. My daughter is only 6 weeks older than Tiggy. Prayers for your family as you walk the dark journey the Lord has for you and as He brings you through to a mountain top of knowing His care in a way many of us will never know. Psalm 61:2 in part says, When my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to the rock that is higher than I. My husband is a physician, also. May your husband have the courage to share God’s love & grace with others he cares for & works with as a result of this story. Tiggy has already impacted more people in his nearly 2 years than most will in a life time. Love, prayers & hugs for you all.

  54. I’m afraid you don’t know me – I’m one of the total strangers who followed a link, so please forgive me for intruding, but I had to offer some small speck of comfort if I could, if there’s even a small chance it could ease some tiny bit of your anguish. Your loss is unimaginable, and my heart is broken for you and your family. That’s all I really know to say…I pray the Comforter will hold you close to him and somehow lend you his peace. Your precious little boy is in his hands.

  55. Dana- I heard about you through Tracy at Hall of Fame Moms. My heart breaks for you. I sobbed while watching your precious boy’s slideshow. You and your family will be in our prayers..

  56. I just wanted to tell you how truly sorry I am for your loss. I have cried and prayed many times and I cannot imagine how you feel at this time. I will continue to pray for you! Love in Christ, Jennifer H

  57. I was so teary eyed with my first comment I left a few moments ago…
    that I typed my blog name wrong as well as my user name. oopppss!

    I also wanted to add that you did a wonderful job on the slide show.

    May God give you the grace to face today~


  58. My heart breaks for your family. I simply cannot fathom the pain you are experiencing. I’ve held onto my 2 year old son tighter the past couple of days since I first read what happened. Please know that we will continue to pray for you all.

  59. I’m so sorry. I don’t know you and just linked through someone else. We lost our 2nd oldest 3 years ago when he was 7 1/2. It was a strange, quick accident that left us all changed forever. I’m would never wish it on anyone. I’m sorry that you’re dealing with this because I know how hard it is and I know how many hours I’ve spent and continue to spend replaying the day in the my mind wishing I’d done something different and knowing that I can’t blame myself, but I still do at times. You’re going to have a hard time and your kids are going to have a hard time. My 8 year old still cries when she see his pictures. I ache for you because I know how hard it is. I pray that you’ll find comfort and peace.

  60. I had never been to this site before the other day when someone on FB requested prayer for your family. My heart aches for you. The other day I could not stop thinking about and praying for you. I know what it’s like to have a son suffer brain damage in an accident. For me, my husband died in the car accident that severely injured our five month old son. My son lived, but at 13 now, he does not talk, walks with leg braces due to partial paralysis, is still in diapers, suffers from seizures, is partially blind, and has had seven surgeries (two for the brain damage and five for shunt placements). I still grieve sometimes over the boy I’ve never been able to know, and long for the day in Heaven when my son will hug me and say to me, “I love you, Mom”. Know that your Tiggy is safe in the arms of Jesus and will be waiting for you there to welcome you Home.

  61. I cannot begin to know how you are feeling and how you are going through this. Over 30 years ago I went through a miscarrage and it took over 20 years for me to accept it and move on from it. The only thing that helped was when I heard Steve Green sing “Jesus Rocking Chair”. Just knowing that my baby was with Jesus and that He has a rocking chair to hold and love my baby was such a comfort for me. I want you to know that my family is praying for you and your family. We are praying for God to wrap His arms around all of you.

  62. Dana,

    I heard about Tiggy’s passing from a forum I belong to. I read the story and my heart wrenches for you, your family, and friends. I came back to this site today to view the slide show. Just beautiful, Dana. I wonder how you can be so brave. So strong. Able to pay tribute to your beautiful son, Mattias, when you must be aching so bad inside. You are a special person, Dana.
    I held my little boy while watching it. My son was born eight days before Tiggy.

    I want you to know the amount of awareness you have spread in such a short time. Your courage and selflessness has produced national awareness for preventable accidents. Through each day you have without your son, know you have saved another one’s life. Mattias has touched so many lives.

    I am so very sorry for your loss. I know god is with you and your family, as he is within us all, but I continue to pray for you, your family, and friends for peace and comfort. I am so sorry.

    Love, The Forcier Family

  63. What a beautiful son…what beautiful memories. I don’t know what else to say other than I am sorry for your loss and that I am praying for you. As a mother, I cannot imagine what you are feeling right now. I pray God holds you, helps you and sustains you now and forever!!!
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  64. my heart breaks. everytime i read your posts, or see them reposted on facebook my heart breaks.
    everytime i read it i see my own children and i want to throw out all the dressers in my house. i may do just that too. i’ve been going around testing all the furniture.

    i’m so sorry for your loss. i grieve for you. you and your family are in our prayers. may God hold you in all of this.

  65. We are so sorry for your loss of this beautiful boy. Earth’s loss is indeed heaven’s gain. May the Lord continue to strengthen you and your family in the difficult days ahead.

  66. Dana,
    Well, your little Tiggy is just as I imagined him to be. I read your “What Happened” Post without knowing anything else about your family. As I gasped and choked through tears, my minds eye envisioned the scene you were describing. The image of his milky smooth skin, whispy blonde hair, and bright blue eyes were part of the unfolding drama I was imagining. I could feel the anguish, the fear, the horror of the realization that this sweet, happy little boy would not survive this crushing blow.

    So, so precious. So loveable, so kissable, so fun and such a blessing. I never met your Tiggy, but I know him, because I am a mother too.

    My heart is full of sadness for your family, and I will pray for you as often as you are on my heart and mind.

    In Christ,

    Isaiah 43:1-3
    1 But now, this is what the LORD says—
    he who created you, Jacob,
    he who formed you, Israel:
    “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;
    I have summoned you by name; you are mine.
    2 When you pass through the waters,
    I will be with you;
    and when you pass through the rivers,
    they will not sweep over you.
    When you walk through the fire,
    you will not be burned;
    the flames will not set you ablaze.
    3 For I am the LORD your God,
    the Holy One of Israel, your Savior…”

  67. Dana,
    you are an amazing mother, and seeing your pictures of your sweet, HAPPY little boy I see that he knows that. I have a little girl, born in December 2008, and when I see your pictures of your little boy I see that have a very similar smile. A smile that brings joy to your heart immediately. A smile, that is contagious.

    My heart is aching for you tonight, and tears are pouring down my face as I watch your video.

    You, your family, and all of your beautiful children will be in my prayers.

    With all our love,
    The Gross family

  68. Oh this BROKE my heart. I can’t imagine what you are going through. I am heart broken for you. Oh how I wish little tiggy was still here to have and hold. I am sooo sorry for this and I will pray for TIGGY’s special family everyday. I have nine children and I could not imagine life without one of them. Thank you for sharing such a precious little guy! The scripture was right our days are numbered, Please don’t feel guilty, you loved him with all your heart and would do anything for him. What a glorious day it will be when he runs to your arms! What a very joyous time he is having while he waits for you in JESUS’s arms. We will pray for you! I just can’t stop crying and being grateful for my little guys. Love in christ Lana

  69. I found your blog today through a link. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved son. Words will not heal your undescribable pain… but know there are many families holding your hand, wiping your tears, and being that shoulder to lean on. You are not alone in this horrific time.

  70. I know I was led here for a reason. I was led here first and foremost to pray for you and your family in this time of grief. My heart broke for you and I sobbed terribly for I cannot imagine your pain. I have three children and have lost one before birth. I know there is comfort in knowing that our children are with the Lord and that we will be with them for eternity, but it is hard here on Earth, no doubt, to be without them. Your son is so precious, so much joy in his eyes. I pray for supernatural comfort for your family. This is a reminder to cherish each moment, and tomorrow I will hug my children a little tighter in memory of your precious son. I am so so sorry for your loss.

  71. I am so sorry for your loss! Words can’t even be said. I read your story the other day about what happened and You and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers! Your faith is inspirational!! I pray many blessings to you and your family!! I will always think of you on February 23rd. That is my son’s birthday too. He will be turning 16 this year. I will think of Tiggy and say a prayer for you all.
    My deepest sympathies are with you all!
    Thank you for sharing your story! It may save lives! You are a beautiful writer!
    May God bless and keep you and your family!

  72. Dana and family, I came to your website from a friend Amy Roberts. I am so so sorry for your loss. Your slideshow was beautiful as was Matthias. My heart aches for you and your family as you go through this loss. My family and I will be keeping you in prayer.


  73. I’m soooo sorry for your loss, but you will be reunited with him in Heaven someday. Your story and video really touched my heart. He was beautiful. My granddaughter Chyanne Scott died in 2003~forever 3. I posted her site above site above, I’d like for you to check it out. . You might want to make a site for him there. Chyanne died from a brain tumor (neuroblastoma). It was hard watchiing her suffer, so I can relate to you. Our children/grandchildren should never have to die before us. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I found this site on facebook so I’m sure you will be getting lots of prayers. I will also add yall to my churches prayer list. If you want to talk just email me. God bless yall and give you peace. Big Hugs, Lisa Wimberly, Tennessee.

  74. My heart is breaking for you and your family. Please know that we are praying for you. May God’s presence be with you.
    With love from Kentucky.

  75. I’ve wanted to comment since I read your story last week, but couldn’t even think of the words to say.

    My heart aches for you and your family. Know that you are being thought of constantly and your little man is being mourned by so many who never even knew him. Many hugs, prayers, and comfort.


  76. We were singing O Come Emmanuel in church this morning. Your family and Tiggy were heavy on my heart. But with tears in my eyes I rejoiced that God is with us, He’s with you, as you know so much better than anyone right now. I will continue to pray for you and your children as you all grieve.

    I also feel inspired to share with you the old English definition of “merry”. It actually means “mighty”. The song “God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen” would better translate “God Make Ye Mighty Gentlemen” using the proper old English meanings of Rest and Merry. So when you are wished a merry Christmas, remember, you will have a MIGHTY Christmas, mighty in God, strengthened by His Word and your faith in His power to conquer death. He’s a big God, and strong tower, run into Him and be made mighty. God bless you.

  77. Dear Hanleys,
    We used to go to the same church as you. I didn’t know you personally but I had a chance to be with Mattias as a little one. I’m so sorry for this- I know it’s heart breaking. Prayers will be extended.

  78. i am saddened by your loss and praying for u and urs
    i am sharing a poem by Barbara Hills LesStrang in hopes it might help u during this time

    The After Loss Credo
    By Barbara Hills LesStrang

    I need to talk about my loss.
    I may often need to tell you what happened-
    or to ask you WHY it happened.
    Each time I discuss my loss, I am helping
    myself face the reality of the death of my loved one.

    I need to know that you care about me.
    I need to feel your touch, your hugs.
    I need you just to be WITH me.
    (And I need to be with you.)
    I need to know you believe in me and in my
    ability to get through my grief in my own
    way. (And in my own time.)

    Please don’t judge me now-
    or think that I’m behaving strangely.
    Remember I’m grieving.
    I may even be in shock.
    I may feel afraid. I may feel deep rage.
    I may even feel guilty. But above all, I hurt.
    I’m experiencing a pain unlike any
    I’ve ever felt before.

    Don’t worry if you think I’m getting better
    and then suddenly I seem to slip backward.
    Grief makes me behave this way at times.
    And please don’t tell me you ‘know how I
    feel’, or that it’s ‘time for me to get on with my
    life’. (I am probably already saying this to myself.)
    What I need now is time to grieve and to recover.

    Most of all, thank you for being my friend.
    Thank you for your patience.
    Thank you for caring.
    Thank you for helping, for understanding.
    Thank you for praying for me.
    And remember, in the days or years ahead,
    after your loss – when you need me
    as I have needed you-I will understand.
    And then I will come and be with you.

  79. If you have ever wanted to make a grown man cry… You have.

    What a tragedy. If only we could turn back time. No mother or father should EVER have to bury their child, especially at that age. I don’t know how you had the strength to write this. I am having a difficult time doing it right now.

    Why do these things even have to happen? I will never understand it.

    You have such a beautiful family, and Tiggy is such a beautiful little boy… I have 2 little boys myself, so I know how much you must love him – I am so sorry for your loss.

    Thank you for sharing this post, I know it must have been so hard for you. But I am glad you. My heart hurts for you. And as a father, please tell your husband how sorry I am. Sometimes as men, we don’t like to show how much we actually hurt – We want to be strong for our wives and our kids, because we want to protect them from hurting as much as we do.

    Take care,

    Brian M Connole

  80. i am saddened by your loss and praying for u and urs i am sharing a poem by Barbara Hills LesStrang in hopes it might help u during this time The After Loss Credo By Barbara Hills LesStrang I need to talk about my loss. I may often need to tell you what happened- or to ask you WHY it happened. Each time I discuss my loss, I am helping myself face the reality of the death of my loved one. I need to know that you care about me. I need to feel your touch, your hugs. I need you just to be WITH me. (And I need to be with you.) I need to know you believe in me and in my ability to get through my grief in my own way. (And in my own time.) Please don’t judge me now- or think that I’m behaving strangely. Remember I’m grieving. I may even be in shock. I may feel afraid. I may feel deep rage. I may even feel guilty. But above all, I hurt. I’m experiencing a pain unlike any I’ve ever felt before. Don’t worry if you think I’m getting better and then suddenly I seem to slip backward. Grief makes me behave this way at times. And please don’t tell me you ‘know how I feel’, or that it’s ‘time for me to get on with my life’. (I am probably already saying this to myself.) What I need now is time to grieve and to recover. Most of all, thank you for being my friend. Thank you for your patience. Thank you for caring. Thank you for helping, for understanding. Thank you for praying for me. And remember, in the days or years ahead, after your loss – when you need me as I have needed you-I will understand. And then I will come and be with you.

  81. My heart breaks for you. I can’t imagine what you are going through. Praying for you and you family at this time. Peace and love to you.

  82. I just finished your story about the dresser falling on your little one. So sad. It must have helped to write it all down. You have a wonderful gift for writing. Writing has many times helped me to get through desperate times when there seemed to be no reprieve. I am so grateful that the Lord gave this gift to me, as he has you. So that we are able to spill out our deep sarrows and agony on to the page, and loosen the grip it has on our hearts.
    Lord bless you and comfort you. Thank you for sharing this very private heart wrenching experience. I know it wasn’t easy, but I have no doubt that it was a must for you to write your feelings and thoughts out to assist you in dealing with this huge loss, and to help you during the grieving process.

  83. I just wanted to give my condolences to all of your family. Someone posted this on my forum and I was very touched by your story. Has I was reading your story, I grabbed my 6 month old baby girl and kissed and hugged her the whole time. Thanks for reminding me how all those little moments are so precious. xoxox

  84. I found your site through our local message board. I am an EMT with the local Rescue Squad. There are many calls I have been on where I have been my own children or family members in paitent’s I treat. I couldn’t imagen the pain your and your family have gone through. I pray for my patients at the end of my nights work, that everything came out as it should and that Gods hands are on them. I cannot imagen the pain your family has gone through. I want you to know, I will think of you and pray. I will pray that the Lord will wrap you in his loving arms and shelter you from the storm.

  85. I came across your blog on the Babycenter message boards, and my heart hurts for you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. May God bless you.

  86. My heart breaks for you and your family. Tiggy is such a beautiful angel. If he had to leave you, I can think of no better place for him than in Gods hands. I pray for peace to your hearts and love and support to your family.

  87. Dana, I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story, I am here crying my eyes out for you. Your little one is just adorable. I will pray for you and your Tiggy and that God will show you strength in your time of need. Much love, one mama to many to another mama of many<3

  88. Dana,
    I am not a blog reader but my friend Amy sent me the link to your blog. As I read your story I want you to know that God’s people all over the country are lifting you up in prayer. ..In places you wouldn’t even expect. Amy is praying in Tacoma, WA and I am praying in College Station, TX. Here is a Texas hug from a sister in Christ who’s heart is hurting for you. Love to you!

  89. Dana,
    Thank you so very much for sharing this photo slideshow of your dear family and son Tiggy, now in Heaven. My heart has been touched. Also, I was very blessed by the verse from Job.

  90. I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful little boy. I am at a loss for words, however, I know that your faith and knowledge that you will all see him again and that he is making Heaven a brighter place with his gorgeous smile. What a joy he was for all of you to love and to share and hopefully as time goes on the pain will subside and the beauty of his little life will be what you each remember more than what took his life. May God bless each of you as you walk through this most difficult time of tragedy.
    Hugs to each of you!
    Ruth Ann

  91. I was sitting here sobbing as I watched the video. I am so, so sorry . . .I have an 8-month old, a very curious little girl. My husband makes fun of me for being paranoid when she pulls herself up on sturdy pieces of furniture, but . . .I worry. I imagine the worst. I jump to protect, to prevent . . .that’s a mother’s heart, I guess. After reading this, I will DEFINITELY keep being paranoid . . .I will pray for you when I rock my little girl tonight and hold her oh so tight.

  92. I’m one of those strangers who came across your website by clicking through a homeschool website… I can only try to express my sincere sympathy to you and your family. I have two children (girl & boy) and any mother would have the same heart felt sympathy towards you and what you went through. May God continue to give you His grace and supply you with his strength and surround you with His everlasting love. Yes, I do believe you WILL see your son again!! God Bless,

  93. We have no words. We do not know you personally (we heard of you at raisingolives blog), but we know OUR Lord. We know His love for you. Since reading this, I cannot look at our two year old and not feel pain in my heart and a tremendous burden to pray for the pain in your hearts as well. God has been with us through things that we never would have imagined we could get through…I know He will miraculously do the same for you. I cannot imagine how…but I know He is faithful and He WILL. O God, please…and thank you.

  94. I just saw your post in the sidebar of another blog I visit from time to time. Oh how my heart and prayers go out to you with the loss of your Tiggy. I have a 3-year old and you are so right about them being so vulnerable and this accident could happen to any one of us. I have also had tragedy in my life with the loss of a dear husband. Without faith, where would we be? I am storming heaven with prayers on your behalf while you are being tested and purifed by your suffering. “Suffering is the very best gift He has to give us. He gives it only to His chosen friends.”~St. Therese of Lisieux~ And this is my favorite: “I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love”~Mother Teresa~ God Bless you and your precious family until you are re-united with your sweet Tiggy once again.
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  95. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. God is with you and is holding you, even when you think you are alone.

  96. I found your blog looking for a recipe for lilac jelly, and stumbled upon the report of poor little Tiggy’s passing. my heart breaks for you, your husband, and your remaining little ones. :’-( reading your posts sent me back to August of last year, when the youngest of my 3 girls fed her 4 month old baby brother a quarter. It lodged in his little windpipe, and as I called 911, and screamed that my baby was dying, he turned blue and went limp in my arms. it seemed like a year before they got there…..
    I remember taking him in to the emergency room, and there, witnessing a miracle. it could have ended differently, God was merciful. I don’t think I would have had the strength to handle it as you have. I still have my precious little boy, but I weep for you, and the fact that you must wait to see your beautiful little guy in the arms of our Lord. you are in my thoughts and, I pray the God would comfort you in your loss, and bring peace and joy back into your home. You are not alone…… Only by His Merciful Grace – Marion

  97. My heart breaks for you and your family. I told your story to my husband and 3 adult children. Know that we are praying for you during this time. We will pray at 4am and 8pm for your family. Our time is in the central time zone. Please share with us if needed.

    Love in Christ,


  98. Dana,
    My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. God is strong when we are weak, and seek strength in Him, He never fails. I’m praying for you.

  99. Oh Dana my heart hurts so much for you and your family. I know the pain of loosing a child, I lost my little girl to accidental drowning nearly 10 years ago. I thought at the time that I would never be able to laugh or find true joy again… but in time I have, life is still not the same and it is not how I would have ever imagined, but it is still a good life. I feel blessed to have been her mother, just as you were so blessed to have Mattias and be his mom. I don’t understand why these accidents have to happen, I never will understand, but I do know that God can comfort us. He will send people into your path and they will help you along and support you through prayer and friendship. I pray peace for you and your children. I know for us my little boy had to go to counseling for a bit because he saw his sister drown and it was very hard on him, he did play theraphy and it helped so much. Also just talking with him and letting him draw was very helpful to him. Blessings to you, if I can do anything please do not hesitate to contact me. (((((prayers and hugs)))))
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  100. Wow, read your blog about that sad day! Thank you for sharing and thank you for caring about the children in poverty and that are trafficked for sex. I cried as I watched this and thought of my 2 young kids!


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