
Mattias Ryker Hanley
February 23, 2009 – December 12, 2010
Tiggy, our little oatmeal Pollock.
I don’t know what else to say.

Mattias Ryker Hanley
February 23, 2009 – December 12, 2010
Tiggy, our little oatmeal Pollock.
I don’t know what else to say.
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[...] pray for Dana who lost her little boy, 8 months old, today. One of my very first and beloved bloggy friends, she [...]
[...] now the words are simply not enough. My dear friend, Dana, lost her little boy this weekend. An accident that has happened in my own home took the life of a precious little boy. I have never [...]
[...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Christine Smith, Jacquie Bushell and Alyssa K, Michelle Brown. Michelle Brown said: RT @LifeVerse: Please pray for Dana and her family she lost her 22 month old son 2 days ago > http://tinyurl.com/2dbcl5r [...]
[...] I have never met Dana. I found her blog on HomeschoolBlogger not long after I first started blogging. I knew I had found someone whom I could call friend. I followed her as she called different spaces on the Internet home. She has blogged at Principled Discovery, A Very Nearly Tea and currently at Roscommon Acres. I have anticipated the birth of three of her six children. I shared her excitement when she and her husband purchased a small homestead and started raising chickens, geese, vegetables and puppies. We exchanged recipes for dandelion jelly and discussed beekeeping and top bar hives. She has walked with me through some difficult times and has never failed to share in my pain or offer words of wisdom. Today, I share her tears. Dana’s son, Mattias Ryker, her strong Gift from God, died on December 12th. [...]
[...] in prayer for Dana Hanley, of Roscommon Acres (formerly Principled Discovery) and her family. They lost their little boy last weekend… in an accident that could have happened in any one of our homes. All of our hearts here are just [...]
[...] in the basement with a cement floor, tipped over on their 22 month old precious little boy, Mattias Ryker Hanley, adoringly nicknamed, “Tiggy”. His skull was severely fractured along with severe [...]
[...] in the basement with a cement floor, tipped over on their 22 month old precious little boy, Mattias Ryker Hanley, adoringly nicknamed, “Tiggy”. His skull was severely fractured along with severe [...]
[...] in the basement with a cement floor, tipped over on their 22 month old precious little boy, Mattias Ryker Hanley, adoringly nicknamed, “Tiggy”. His skull was severely fractured along with severe [...]
[...] announced the loss on 12 December 2010 and the outpouring of support for her was immense. She recounted the story on 15 December 2010 and [...]
[...] Roscommon Acres » Blog Archive » Goodbye, my sweet, sweet baby boy [...]
[...] know many moms who were not able to spend the holidays with their little ones this year. One mom in particular has been in my thoughts nearly nonstop for 2 weeks now, and I’ve been deeply affected by [...]
I am so extremely sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you.
God bless
Heather Laurie
http://www.LaurieFamilyMinistries.org
http://www.Specialneedshomeschooling.com
Praying for you and your family.
I will put your families name on the prayer roll at the temple; so sorry to hear this.
There are no words. Praying.
Dana, I am so sorry for your loss. Weeping for you and your family. I will pray.
I cried when I read this. I had to ask my husband to explain it to me, hoping I had gotten confused and read it wrong. I have seen first had how losing a child can affect a family. Although I cannot begin to fully understand the deepness of your pain and heartache, my heart weeps for you. In Gods great mercy and love, he has ordained for your son to be called home. We are praying for you and you prescious children. May God bless you and keep you in this difficult time. Draw near to him.
C.Lord
We are weeping with and praying for your family, Dana.
Sending you our love and prayers at this painful, incomprehensible time.
Vanessa
*tears* sweet Dana… I am so sorry… Praying, as my heart is just breaking for you and your family.
*tears* sweet Dana… I am so sorry… Prayingl, as my heart is just breaking for you and your family.
So very sorry. Words seem so inadequate. We will be praying.
Dana, I am so, so sorry to hear this. I’m praying for you and your family.
i’m at a loss for words. i’m praying for you guys.
i know we’ve only talked a bit here on line but is there anything we can do?
truly so sorry.
Oh Dana. I’m so very sorry.
Oh Hanleys! My heart is broken for y’all! As soon as I saw this I started bawling and praying for You! I’m so sorry for the loss of your precious boy! Praying for comfort for you from our Savior as you go thru this hard time. Love and hugs and prayers!
My eyes are full of tears and my heart is aching in wounded sorrow. I have no words….but a scripture that come to heart when I lost my little boy.
“…weep with them that weep.” Romans 12:15
I’m praying and weeping with you.
praying and crying with you!
My dearest Dana,
Words won’t do. I am praying and loving and crying with you.
I know it sounds trite and I’m far away but I really do want to help however I can. Just let me know.
Dana…oh, Dana. I’m so sorry.
Dearest Dana and Family, I am praying and weeping with you. I’m so very sorry to hear this, and I’m praying for sweet comfort and the peace that passes all understanding to fall upon your house.
Dana, I don’t know you or your family but I know that today is the day my son went to heaven. Our babies are in the masters hands and it is a hard time of year to lose a little one. I will be praying for you. Take time to grieve your loss and no words can express how painful it is to lose your future, your hope and your dreams with the loss of your little baby. Our babies now share this day and I shall forever pray for him as well. God Bless you and remember that the bible even says their is a time for sorrow.
Aw Dana. I am so sorry. I don’t know what happened, but I am just aching for your heart and your family.
I pray the Father will just hold you all until you can breathe.
I am so sorry.
(((HUGS)))
Jacque and Matt and family
Dana…..
Words can’t even begin to express how deeply I feel for you. Please know you and yours are in my prayers.
I pray that as you heal you will remember with joy that your separation from your dear, sweet baby is only temporary…and that until your arms hold him once more, he is in very good hands.
Sending you a hug…
Awww, Hanely family, my heart is so sad for you and the pain you all must be going through. May the Father’s shalom comfort you in this time of weeping.
(((((HUGS))))))
Jocelyn Tzahala
I was so hoping this was not what I thought.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your sweet family losing your smiley, happy boy. What a wonderful life he must have had with all of you. I’m so very sorry and my heart aches for you.
No words can describe the sadness that is now engulfing your heart and the hearts of your family.
Prayers is all I can offer to you…May Our Lord hold you close and give you peace as you travel this road of tears. Remember that He is with you through this. he is holding you close.
M.
I am so sorry for your loss. I’ll be praying.
-Sarah Esau
I am so very sorry. I am praying for each person in your family.
Carol Piepho
I am so saddened by your post Dana. I can not even begin to imagine the pain you are going through!! This is the first time I visited your blog, I think I saw it through facebook. Please know that I am praying that Yahweh fills you with His sweet love and peace. There are no words I can express to ease your pain. Just know that you have many people sharing the pain with you and are praying for you and your family.
Praying for your family and strength to get through… there is nothing I can say; it all is just so empty… just that I am sorry you are all going through this loss.
Oh, Dana, I cannot believe what I have read. I had to re-read it several times. I am so sorry for your loss. I am praying for you and your family at this difficult time. May you know God has His loving, strong arms around you and your family. May He give you strength and comfort as only He can do.
I’m so sorry. My prayers are with you.
So so sorry for your loss and sorrow. I am just stunned and sickened. I hope you’ll let the Lord hold you up through this. I will pray for your family.
Words can not express.
Know that you and your family are in my prayers.
I am so sorry for your loss and your sorrow.
I’m so very sorry for your loss! I hope you will share what happened! I’m shocked! Please know you’re in my prayers! I’m so very touched by your blog! I’m so sad for you!
My family is praying for your family.
No words, only tears. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’m so, so sorry. My mother’s heart hurts for you. Prayers for you and your family to the only one who can give peace that passeth all understanding.
Hugs and prayers and tears, Dana. I am so sorry.
Dana and family,
I am very sorry for your loss and will be praying.
Tearful prayers for you and your family Dana.
May He strengthen you all with His great Shalom, as you lean into Him~
Oh, Dana, I’m so sorry and will keep your family in my prayers.
Just heard of you loss. Nothing can be said to express how I feel right now. Just remember He is safely HOME. I know your arms are empty, but remember that you don’t have to walk this journey alone. Our Heavenly Father is carrying you and your family right now. Even He weeps with us. Praying for you!
Dearest Dana – Mattias’s life was but the briefest flicker of a flame, extinguished before it had time to shed its light on the world but not before sharing its warmth with you and your loved ones. May the memory of the joy Mattias brought to your family in the short time that you were together strengthen you, and may God count that joy as the weight of a life filled with such blessing, binding through that love and joy your son Mattias in the bonds of eternal life. (from Jewish Yizkor prayer)
You are all in my thoughts.
Judy
Praying the Lord’s embrace over you and your family.
Oh, Dana. I wish I could hug you.
I heard of your loss through a mutual friend and wanted to tell you how terribly sorry I am. Your family is in our prayers.
Dana, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. I pray our Heavenly Father will embrace you and comfort you in this time of great sorrow. May He bring you shalom and understanding. I am crying for you and your family, and you will be in my prayers.
We’re praying for all of you. I’m so thankful to God that one day we’ll be reunited with our babies in heaven. {{{hugs}}}. Melanie Young
Dana, I am so sorry for you and your family! You are in my thoughts and prayers. I simply don’t know what else to say (((HUGS)))
Our prayers are with you.
Dana,
All of us on The Lounge are praying for you! *HUGS*
I’m so sorry. You are in our prayers.
I am so sorry. Praying for you and your family
Dana,
My heart and prayers go out to you and your family during this difficult time. May God’s peace and comfort envelop you all!
In His Love,
Kiva
Your family is in our prayers. *hugs*
Oh Dana,
There are no words. Praying for peace and comfort for your family as you walk this hard, hard road.
Oh Dana, I don’t know what to say. My heart grieves for you and your family. I lost my own daughter to cancer when she was 24. Yesterday — the day you lost your precious boy — was her birthday. I know that you are numb right now. I will pray that the Lord will be your comfort and strength in these coming weeks and months. God bless you.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I too am a loss mom, and I do not wish that anyone else know this pain. May God comfort you and yours.
I think just what you wrote is just enough at this present time as your heart grieves for the loss of your child..
I have not been to visit your blog in a while, but when I heard about your son I wanted to share my deepest sympathies with you and your family. I am so very sorry for your loss.
I am soo sorry. I cannot imagine what you are going through…I pray that the Lord comfort you fully…
Words are inadequate on this end as well, Dana. Will keep you and your family in our prayers.
I am so so sorry. our prayers will be with your family
Dana and family,
I am so sorry that you had to lose your precious boy. I pray for the peace of the Lord to wrap His loving HUGE arms around your family and to find solace in Him.
We lost our little 5 year old son to cancer 2 years ago. i do know how you feel. I wish no-one had to ever go through the loss of a child, no matter how. Jacque Dixon blogged about your son and so I am praying for you.
Julie K
Oh Dana . . . you know there are no words. He was just a little older than my daughter, who was killed at 20 months. Contact me via THL if you need anything, and know that you and yours are being prayed for . . . and will be . . . for a very. long. time.
Dana, I am so, so sorry for your loss. My heartfelt condolences. My prayers are with you and your family.
Oh, my heart grieves with you! Praying for you during this most difficult time ever.
Dana! I am so very, very sorry! Crying & Praying for you and your family right now! Melisa
I’m beyond words. Please know I’m weeping with you and praying for you. I’m so sorry.
Dana,
I am so sorry for your sudden, heartbreaking loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Praying for you. So sad. I ache for you.
Oh, Dana, my heart breaks for you and your family. I know words are inadequate. Praying in tears for you all.
Oh, Dana… I am sorry, so very sorry.
Dana,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your precious son…praying for you and your family.
Oh I’m terribly sorry Dana, I will pray for you & your family.
Love, Michele
Dana, I am so sorry for the loss of Mattias. May the Lord comfort you and your family.
Praying for you.
Oh, my heart aches for you!
I am so sorry for your loss of your precious little boy. I am praying for all of you.
Praying for you and your family, that God will hold you in his arms during this time of sorrow.
Praying. I am so sorry.
Praying for you.
We are praying.
The Homeschool Lounge Sister,
Denise
Dana, I am so very, very sorry. My heart is breaking for you.
I’m so so so sorry. I have never been to your blog before today, I don’t know you or what happened to your little guy but I can’t stop weeping for you. I am praying and praying for you and your family. Hugs from Tennessee. May the Lord Bless you, keep you and may his face shine upon you.
No Words.
Lots of prayers. Lots and lots of them!
Dana, we just heard. So sorry, words seem inadequate.
I am so so sorry. We are praying for you all.
Dana, there are no words. I keep searching. I am heartbroken for you. You’ve been in my thoughts all day & forever will be. I am so very sorry for your loss – and for your entire family. You’re all in my prayers.
Sending love.
-Melissa
So deeply sorry for your loss. Can not adequately express my emotions into words- but please know that my prayers are with your family.
I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.
Dear Dana and family,
I didn’t understand when I first read the post. I didn’t want to understand when I read it again. I still don’t want to believe it.
My heart is yours right now…I can only just barely imagine what you all are going through. I cry mother’s tears for you and wish that I could be closer to you to help in any way.
May God’s grace guide you during this terrible time and may you and your family find some peace and comfort.
Much love
Praying for you.
Dana…
Teresa and I are joining in your other friends here to say that we are truly sorry for the loss of your little guy. I wish I could say something to give you and that awesome husband of yours some some comfort. Accept our condolences and our virtual hugs.
Maybe this will help…maybe:
But Jesus called them to him, saying, “Let the children come to me, and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of God. – Luke 18:16.
I was just sitting here saying no over and over – I have no idea what happened, but my heart is breaking. I am so sorry for your loss. I am here if you need me – I love you sweetie.
I am so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family.
I haven’t been by your blog in awhile … and I have no idea what happened … but my heart breaks for you and your family. My family will be praying for your family. I am so sorry for your loss.
May the God of heaven be your comfort through this difficult time and may the sweet memories of your little one bring joy to you in the future.
Praying for you and your family.
May the God of peace wrap His loving arms around you and your family today. I’m so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.
peace to you and your family. I am praying for you all.
Praying for you, may you know comfort & peace in knowing he’s with Jesus.
May God be with your family during this difficult time. Know that you are being lifted up in prayer by many.
Dana,
I am so very sorry. Praying for you and your family.
Dana,
I. can. NOT. imagine. how you feel….prayers are being sent right this second with requests of love, healing, wisdom to know that one day you will be reunited with that precious little one on streets of gold up in Heaven, and for God’s peace just overflow in your life right now. Words just don’t express what everyone feels but God knows our hearts and yours.
Just wanted to say that I am praying for you and your family during this terrible and horrible time. May the God who wipes away tears hold you in His arms with promises that you will see your sweet boy again.
I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your little boy. Please know that so many of us on THL are lifting you and your family up in prayer right now and will continue to do so in the year ahead.
Dana,
I am so very sorry for your loss. I am praying for you and your family!
Kristine
I’m so sorry for your loss. Will be praying for God’s comfort in your life.
I’m so very sorry. I am praying for you and your family.
Sweet Dana,
I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved little guy and for your deepest grief. My heart is aching for you and what you and your family are going through. I wish I could give you a hug and stand right there with you in prayer.
Please know my family and I will be praying for you and your family.
Lots of love,
The Vawter Family
Wishing you and your family gentle healing of the heart
I am hurting for you. My heart has broken for your family. I am soo sorry for the lost of your precious son. Surely, our world has lost another sweet, perfect light.
Mother to mother, I can hardly begin to imagine your pain and lost.
I will be praying for you and your family. May God’ peace, grace and love come upon you during this most difficult season in your life.
Love, Dorian
I am so sorry for your loss – especially around the holidays! Praying God comforts you and your family with his grace and love and strength. My own son died shortly after birth around the holidays in 2002. You will never forget your son as he will always be a part of who you are.
Jessica
So sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.
I am praying for your family!
Joycelyn
Dana, I am so very sorry. Aching tonight with groans none can express. My tears and my prayers are with you. Your little man was a greeted by our precious nephew yesterday.
I’m not far if you need anything, anything, even to just get away. Please let me know if I can be of help.
Love and prayers.
Kathy
Dana, I am so very sorry for your heart break and loss. I will be praying for you.
Dana and Family,
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your little boy. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.
Marilyn Just (CBC–Olathe)
I don’t know you, but I saw the announcement through the MOB Society. Oh, I am WEEPING with you, Sister.
I saw this announcement on the MOB Society. I am so so sorry for your loss and am lifting you and your family up in prayer.
Dana, though I don’t know you personally, my heart hurts terribly for you and your family over hearing about the loss of your precious baby boy. I can not fathom your pain at this time. You will all be in my daily prayers.
I am so very sorry for your loss! Praying for you and your family at this time.
Thinking of you and your family. May the Lord strengthen each of you and give you comfort. It’s so nice to see that you have many people praying for you and thinking of you at this time. God Bless.
I’m so sorry…. first time to your blog. My heart goes out to you and your family and I pray that the Lord will keep you close to Him.
Dana, I am so sorry for the loss of your precious son. I am praying for you and your family.
-Kim
I am so sorry Dana.
“Oh I Have Slipped
The Surly Bonds of Earth…
Put Out My Hand
And Touched the Face of God ”
I just don’t know what to say. I am so very very sorry. I cannot fathom. I am praying for you. Blessings to your family and to his sweet sweet spirit.
There are no words. I will add my prayers to the many I know are being said for you and your family.
Dana, I’m so sorry for your loss.
There are no words that can fill your void. But I am praying for the Lord to hold you close during this time and in the days, weeks, months, years to come.
You are loved.
I saw the prayer request for you and your family on Sisterlisa’s facebook.
Dana, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son. I don’t have words to come close to comforting you, but you are thought of and prayed for in this time of sorrow.
Donna
There are no words, but to tell you your are being lifted up in prayer. ♥
I am weaping with you.
Shalom to your family — may God fill up the hole this tragedy has left so that you have nothing missing nor broken.
May the Lord turn this bad around for his good, for you and your husband, and for your other children, as well.
May He show you how to use this to glorify you even in the midst of it all.
With much love & Intense Prayer,
Donna
Praying for you and your family.
I just found your blog through facebook and I want you to know that I am in tears over the loss of your sweetheart. I am praying for you and your family.
Oh Dear Dana, I am so sorry. Praying for you and your family. I just now heard, as my father-in-law passed away suddenly this morning. May God comfort and sustain you in his love and peace during this time of grief.
All my Love,
Lisa
I ache for you and your family. I don’t know what else to say, but you are in my prayers.
Sending you prayers and strength in this difficult time…….lots of love being sent to you and your family…….
I’m so sorry Dana. Praying for you and your family. My heart breaks for you.
Dana, nothing can touch this. No words will do. Tears and prayers going up for you. God bless.
Dana, I’m so sorry. My heart is breaking for you. I pray God’s comfort for you and your family.
There are no words, Dana, as my mother’s heart is so sad for you and your family. May God be your comfort and strength during this time!
Blessings,
Tammy ~@~
Dana and family – sending up fervent prayers for your family to a Heavenly Father who really does care. Praying He is your strength and fortress and is your very present help through this horrible time – so sorry you’re going through this.
I am so so sorry Dana. May the God of all peace hold you in the crook of His arm.
Prayers,
Hannah
I’m so very sorry. We’re praying for you and your family
there are no words that i can say that will take your pain, but i do know that God will heal you, and comfort you through this trial. Many heartfelt prayers to you and your family!
May you know the peace that passes all understanding.
I am so sorry for your loss, Dana. I wish you and your family comfort and peace.
Warmly,
Darcy
“A tear is as pure as your heart.” Katie, age 9
Let the tears flow from your heart -may each one be held in the hands of Jesus Christ. Celebrating the life of your precious son by saying prayers for your family tonight and each night through the Christmas season.
Dana, I’ve just heard. I am so sorry and I share in this outpouring of concern and support for you and your family.
Lifting prayers. I am so very sorry.
*hugs*
*tears*
*hugs*
I’m so, so sorry to hear your sad news. Much love and prayers for you all xx
You are held tightly in my heart. Please tell us if there is anything at all we can do. Anything.
There is nothing any of us can say to comfort you, but know that I am sorry and you are being covered in prayer.
Praying for you and your family.
Love and prayers, hugs and tears. So sorry you’re hurting.
I’m very sorry for the loss of your sear son! You and your family are in my prayers.
Dear not sear.
the passing of a child is something I will never comprehend. Please let everyone’s prayers wrap you and your family in a comfort of warmth and peace.
Our prayers and deepest sympathies are with you and your family.
In Christ,
jules @ everydaymommy
He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart. Psalm 91:4 NIV
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Prayers and tears extending and ascending…
Oh I just heard the news this morning, I am SO SO sorry, words cannot express. Our family is praying for all of you!
Lifting your family up in prayer today and in the months to come. ((hugs)) and God’s Blessings,
Gina Glenn and Family
I am so very sorry…
I will be praying for you and your family. I know this path that you now find yourselves. Always know that grief is holy ground – the Lord walks with you.
This is my first time reading your blog as well. As a mother and a sister in Christ, my heart cries for you and your family, and I will be lifting you up to our Heavenly Father.
Having followed you on Twitter for a long time, and remembering when Mattias was born, it seems unreal to read this terrible news. I am so, so sorry for you and your family. There is nothing any of us can say to take away your pain, but please know that I am praying for you, that God will somehow bring you comfort in the midst of this tragedy.
Words seem empty, but hoping they plea in Heaven and send comfort down from On High. So very sad and sorry for your sweet baby boy!
I am so, so sorry for the loss of your little one.
Praying for you and your family at this time.
So sorry for your loss. Prayers going up on behalf of your family. (((((HUGS))))) sandi
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending up prayers for peace and comfort as you and your family deal with this painful situation.
Dana, I’m just so sorry for your loss. Please accept my deepest condolences.
Dana, I don’t know what to say, either, I am weeping with you and for you. Sometimes the heartache in this world is just too much to bear.
I am so very sorry for you and your family’s loss. You have my family’s deepest sympathies. We, too, know what it is to lose a child and flounder from the pain. Prayers for your family, and I sincerely hope you find some peace in your time of grief.
So very very sorry. Our family will be keeping you in our prayers.
I am so very sorry.
Praying for you and your family.
hugs xox
Crying along with you. My prayers are for everyone in your family.
Dana,
I have resisted commenting because I didn’t know what to say. I still don’t know what to say. But may you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. May God’s presence be with you as you face the next few hours, days, weeks and months. May His grace sustain you when you think you can’t move forward. And may His love hold you up when all else seems to be falling down.
Sending hugs & prayers your way,
Alicia
Dear Dana, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Praying you feel God’s arms wrapped about you during this difficult time, and that you know Him as your Comforter and Strength. ~Misty
Oh Dear One,
Words cannot even express the pain I feel for you and the pain you must be feeling.
Know that I am praying for you just as hundreds of other Moms are praying for you right now.
Oh, Dana. I’m so very sorry! Praying for your family, sweet sister. May you feel the love and peace of the Lord as you mourn your precious baby.
Kathy
Lifting you and your family up in prayer.
Dana,
I have never before been to your blog. I was directed here through twitter. The Queen of Spain sent me. I am completely heart broken for your family. I have a daughter who was born just a day before your little man. I hope that you are able to find peace and comfort some how. Feel the prayers that are lifting you up. I am so sorry for your loss.
April
I have never visited here before, but was directed here from Twitter. I have twins a few months younger than your precious angel & this sad news has brought me to tears.
My condolences on your loss.
So, so heartbroken to hear of your loss. Every mother fears that great gaping hole torn in her family, ripped from her heart. I cannot imagine your anguish, and I wish you peace wherever you can find it.
My heart is heavy for you. Please know that you are in our prayers as you go through this difficult time. God is faithful and I am confident that He will give you the comfort you need.
I’m so sorry. It is true, there is nothing anyone can say that will fill the void. And the nightmare you can’t wake from… words just fail. I pray that in future weeks and months you may take great comfort in knowing he is with the Lord, and perhaps some comfort as well from knowing that there are others who have come through similar loss. I lost a brother to a tragic accident almost 5 months ago; he was a bit like a first son to me. Not the same, no — no two stories of grief are ever just the same. But we are members of a club we never wanted to be part of, and we share each other’s pain somehow, even when we don’t know each other. Praying.
I am so very sorry. I don’t know what to say.
Oh, Dana! There aren’t words. I’m so very sorry. May God’s peace get you through.
Having lost a 16 year old son 6 years ago on 12/10/04 I know the ache and fog you are in and my heart aches for a mom I don’t know, but know the pain you are enduring. I am so sorry and wish I could stand next to you and hold you and weep with you.
One thing that has recently comforted me is thinking of Psalm 23 when we read as we “walk through the shadow of death”, in order for there to be a shadow there has to be light and though it seems total darkness you are in and will go through, know that He really is there – and you are under His wing, never to be forsaken.
May God comfort you and your family. With tears ~ Loni
Dana – My heart goes out to you at this difficult time. Praying for you and your family. Hugs, Heather (@peahdotcom)
I am so, so sorry. R
I am so very sorry for your loss. Praying that God will send peace and comfort to your family during this time of sorrow.
You and your family are in our prayers.
I am so sorry. Praying for God’s grace, comfort, & mercy as you & everyone in your family grieve and as you all remember & cherish his beautiful life. I’m so sorry.
You are in my heart. Stay strong, you have many praying for you.
what a sweet little boy, you will see him again, hold onto the hope of Heaven.
Praying for you, dear one, that you would be cradled in God’s unending, abounding love, that He would pursue you with His love and comfort, that your faith would grow deeper still, that you would be a light to others. You are loved by many.
A friend sent me the link to your What Happened post first, then this one. I am so, so, sorry. The words seem so inadequate. He was beautiful and my heart is aching for your tragic loss. Please know that I’m thinking about you and your family.
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry. My son died 7 years ago when he was 22 and all the things you said in your story were so familiar. I just kept telling myself to BREATHE. I know you don’t understand this now but it will get better. The pain will dull just enough to think about him and smile….most days anyway. My prayers are with you.
This is my first time to your blog. My youngest is one week older than Mattias. I cannot fathom the pain you are in, but know that my tears and prayers are with you. I do not know you, but my heart is breaking for your loss. May God hold and comfort you and your family in the weeks and years to come. I am so deeply sorry.
My husband and I will be praying for you and your family. I am so very sorry.
Oh Dana, my heart breaks with yours.
Oh Dana, my heart breaks with yours
Again….I am so so so sorry.
I am so sorry for your loss. All my thoughts and prayers for you always…
I am so very sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
Words cannot express how heartbroken I am for you. It sounds like he was such a blessing and a joy! I know your arms will ache for him and your heart is overwhelmed. I just pray that God would be your comfort.
Dear Dana,
I have been following your blog for some time and today when I read your post I prayed.
God will be your comfort in this tragic time of your lives…my heart aches for you and yours.
Know that there are many people that have you and your family in their thoughts and prayers.
I’m devastated for your loss. I pray that you find peace in knowing that your precious Tiggy is loved more by God in Heaven than we can imagine. xxoo
There are no words. I am so sorry, this is absolutely horrifying.
I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Oh how everything within me wishes that you didn’t know this pain. The what-ifs are haunting but then I remember that God knew how many days my Justice and your Tiggy would be with us before we ever knew them. And I know peace.
I am praying for you and your family. We don’t know eachother. We’ve never met. But I am crying with you. I’m hurting with you. My heart is aching for you and your family.
The Lord bless you and keep you in your time of grief.
The Lord bless you and keep you in your time of sorrow.
Dear Dana and Family~ I am so sorry to hear about your loss, his smile from your picture shows what a happy boy he was. I will be thinking of you all during this time of sorrow.
Im very sorry for your loss! A son took too soon! May your family find peace and comfort in this very hard time. May God bless you!
We are so very sorry…Our hearts are with you. Chris Ann & Kristin
Words at a time like this stink.There is no way to say or do anything to fix this.Made even moreso due to my being a stanger.However, I couldn’t read and not let you know that your story has impacted me today.
I have wept for you and your family today. I was linked to your blog from another website.I read the entry I was linked to.I sobbed. I saw this, and even as a total stranger to your family, am overcome with a sadness I cannot begin to describe. One thing I have been thinking on his name. Mattias “gift of God” and Ryker “strength”.What a powerful meaning behind the name!
I hope you are able to sense our Father in Heavens arms around you as your brothers and sisters in Christ call out your name Dana.That you are truly granted “strength” in the days,weeks and years to come while trying to cope with the un-expected calling to home eternal, of your son Mattias, a very special “gift of God”
I’ll be praying for you and your family mama.I truly will…
I pray God give you His peace that passes all understanding and sustain you through the long days, weeks and years to come. He’s our deliverer. It’s hard to do but try every now and then to think of the great joy Tiggy is experiencing in the presence of his Father and Brother. Love to all of you.
No words seem right – tears just keep falling.
Praying for your family – To God be the glory.
My heart is broken for you and your family… Please know I am thinking of you and praying for your whole family.
Oh. I don’t know what to say. I don’t even know you. I followed a link. A friend of a friend of a friend. I read what happened and I sobbed. I’m still sobbing. Your son, Mattias, was born on the same day as my baby, Mateo. And I cannot imagine what you are going through. I cannot imagine. I don’t even want to imagine and that’s not fair to you because you are living it. I have seen too many kids, too many babies go to heaven this year and I am so sorry that your son is one of them. I am so sorry. I know you’re getting offers from the world, but it still stands to be said, if you need anything… I am definately praying for you.
Prayers for you and your family – your Tiggy shares a birthdate with my daughter… My you all feel God’s presence immensely and His huge arms wrapped around you!
I know words can’t comfort you at this time but please know in your heart that your sweet boy is with God now. I know we arn’t supposed to question Him but sometimes it’s just so unfair. I’ll hug my baby girl extra tight to me tonight.
I am so, so very sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts & prayers.
Thinking about you, John and the kids. I have no words, just prayers and love.
“How do we know, Master,” Tanis asked hestitantly, “whether the life of any creature has fulfilled its destiny? I have known the very old to die in bitterness and despair. I have seen young children die before their time but leave behind such a legacy of love and joy that grief for their passing was tempered by the knowledge that their brief life had given much to others.” – Tanis Half-Elven
Dear Dana,
So shocked to hear what happened. It was as if I knew Tiggy personally. I had tears streaming down my face, when I read about what happened and your tragic loss. Matt 19:14. Rest assured – Tiggy is in a better place, and he is waiting for you.
Jesse
jesse.main@gmail.com
I am with you in this terrible drama , Que Dieu bénisse votre petit garçon, il est dans les bras de l’Enfant Jésus…
God Bless all your family, praying hard for you….
estelle
My heart breaks
Praying for you, your husband and your precious children….may the Lord keep your hearts together as you mourn the tragic loss of your son.. and may your hearts create of garden of memories for Tiggy.
Oh my, I am so sorry for your loss. I read your “What Happened” post and am in tears. From one mother to another, I just can’t imagine the pain that you’re experiencing and the horror that you have been through. I pray…for whatever it is that you and your family will need to get through this tragedy.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your Tiggy.
My heart aches for you and there are no words but I am praying for you and your family. By the way, this is my first visit to your blog. (tears)
Words cannot express the sympathy I feel for you. So sorry for your loss. May God Himself comfort you through this time. You’re in our prayers.
I am so very sorry… what a beautiful little boy…… May God hold you tightly in His arms..
I am writing from Turkey, İstanbul.
During reading your writing I suppose my heart is stopping.
I really feel very ubset.
what can a word say my feelings,
sorry for my English….
My heart breaks
Praying for you, your husband and your precious children….may the Lord keep your hearts together as you mourn the tragic loss of your son.. and may your hearts create of garden of memories for Tiggy.
I am breathless with grief for you, mama. My youngest is the same age as your lost darling and I can’t imagine the pain of losing him. I will pray you find healing for your pain.
i cant even begin to express how sorry i am for u. i cried like a baby reading your story. i lost a baby girl when i was 31 weeks with her so i can relate to the lose. however i can not imagine losing one of my 3 babies (triplets) now that i have held them and cared for them. they will be 8 months on the 6th. i wish i could take away your pain and give u back your little tiggy, but i cant. instead i will pray for you and your family. i hope my baby girl will find your little tiggy up in heaven and they will become great friends. if you ever want to talk please email me at laurajulia03@yahoo.com and i will give you my number or we can chat through email if you’d rather. hugs, love, and prayers from my family to yours.
The Julia Family
I am so very, very sorry for your loss. Your Twiggy is a sweet, sweet angel now, and I cried so hard reading this. I am praying for you, and will every day. May God hold you up when you think you can’t go any longer.
I am so drawn in by you, your life and your grieving the loss of your little Mattias. I just keep coming back and reading more. My heartaches for you, and at the same time I enjoy your simplicitic lifestyle. You are a real doen home women of God. I admire you for taking time to write your experiences down, and having courage to share these personal events and feelings. You have a gift for sharing through the written word. The Lord is strong in you and that is probably why you can share. It seems to help you as well as your readers. Me included as a new reader to your blogs. Your an incredible lady and the Lord is certainly visible in your writing. I thank you for all your sharing. You inspire me , and though I haven’t lo
st a child after having him in my arms like you, I have lost people in my life. You will touch many in need of hearing your life stories, and help them to deal with like experiences or similar losses. You will be a reminder of the life that the Lord can use, and an encouragement to others seeking the Lord or thinking of homeschooling. Thank you Dana. May the Love of the Lord crry you through.
I’m so very sorry for Your loss. I’m prying for you and your family.
My son died of a brain tumor at 13 1/2 months. We only knew for 6 days. He died soon after surgery although we were at the best hospital and had the best Dr. This was 24 yrs. ago. I feel your pain and want you to know you will never forget him – never. He is always yours. He is sitting with our Lord Jesus Christ – he is with my son and many other children and they are loved.
Dear Dana and family
I am sad for the loss for you in losing your precious little guy.
Noone could read this without crying and feeling your pain. I like that you read and reread the scriptures that are to comfort us.
Just know that your family is being prayed for and lifted up.
My name is Dana as well, and I want you to know that I am thinking and praying for you.
Dana Duke
Florida (school teacher, Reading and the Arts)
Heidi, I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for your encouragement.
Thank you, Dana. This has been and still is a very difficult season for our family. There is always comfort, but the ache is always there, too.
God bless.