I don’t really know what “good enough” parenting is. Maybe it is a British thing, but apparently it is something of enough concern to the UK that the government funded some research which concluded that better parenting leads to better adjusted children.
‘The notion of “good enough” parenting may seem ideal in today’s hectic world, yet the reality is that “good enough” parents will most likely produce “good enough” children at best. MailOnline
There really are no startling revelations in this study, at least as it was reported. Except maybe that you can get government money for this kind of thing, but that is hardly a surprise, either. One little part caught my attention, however.
The Good Childhood Inquiry recently claimed a culture of ‘excessive individualism’ among adults was to blame for many of children’s problems.
It said 30 per cent of adults in the UK disagreed with the statement that ‘parents’ duty is to do their best for their children even at the expense of their own well-being’. (Ibid. emphasis mine)
Thirty percent? Forgive me, but if you are not ready for making some sacrifices for the well-being of your children, you are not ready for the responsibility associated with caring for another human being who will be wholly dependent on you. I’m sorry, but if you want to get a dog, you need to be ready to make some sacrifices or you should get a stuffed one.
Here, I’ve only heard the discussion framed in terms of how much is too much. Like, at what point have you sacrificed so much for the well-being of your children that you are actually doing them harm? An instructor I had in college, for example, argued that while staying at home with children is a good and noble thing, a mother doing so who was unhappy in this role would do her and her children a favor to put them in daycare and get a job.
Are we really that distant from our own children that almost one third don’t seem to agree that we should put the best interests of our children before our own? And if true, what does that say for our future?
Hat Tip: Are We There Yet?